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Three writings by Dr. Don: Reflections Daily Snippets How to Get Along With Anybody
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(based upon his book How To Put Your Whole Self In)
June 26 I've been thinking about this:"There are only two primary choices in life; to accept conditions as they exist, or accept the responsibility for changing them." (Denis Waitley)My Reflection: Judging conditions correctly and then boldly applying whichever of Waitley's two "primary choices" is appropriate is a tough challenge! But learning how to do this and to do it well is a requisite for improving myself, the social relationships I belong to, and for the world.
June 25 I've been thinking about this:"The love of liberty is the love of others; the love of power is the love of ourselves." (William Hazlitt)My Reflection: My willingness to love the people around me without reservation opens doors that free my spirit to "soar to realms unknown." On the other hand, attempts to seize and use power to get the better over others will always inhibit and diminish my spirit.
June 24 I've been thinking about this:"It is ordained in the eternal constitution of things, that men of intemperate minds cannot be free. Their passions forge their fetters." (Edmund Burke)My Reflection: Surely the quote is true: drunkards do not really enjoy their drink; compulsive gamblers never derive lasting enjoyment from their cards or at their tables. In both cases, their addictions diminish them; their pleasures shrink. However, Burke's principle can work in a positive direction. Intemperate and unregulated desire to engage in "random acts of kindness" liberates the mind and frees the soul of any "fetters" of despondency and depression that otherwise would threaten to bring us down.
June 23 I've been thinking about this:"The meaning of life is to find your gift. The purpose of life is to give it away." (Pablo Picasso)My Reflection: Like all reflective people, I've given a lot of thought to the question of the meaning of life and am enchanted by the fact that Picasso was able to succinctly identify two essential ingredients of any life lived with meaning and purpose. I've found my gift; I'm giving it away right now.
June 22 I've been thinking about this:"No matter how many mistakes you make or how slow you progress, you are still way ahead of everyone who isn't trying." (Tony Robbins)My Reflection: Occasional discouragement and feelings of futility come to everybody, but any progress is better than sitting still. Some days I seem to be crawling forward like a caterpillar. Perhaps someday I'll take wings and fly, but until then I'll simply keep inching along.
June 21 I've been thinking about this:Joy is not to be sought outside it is intrinsic. If you do not mess up your mind, you will naturally be joyful." (Sadhguru)My Reflection: How satisfying to find this wise man reflecting a truth I've been saying for years that happiness and joy should be regarded as a birthright handed down to us by our loving Father.
June 20 I've been thinking about this:"Here's what I know about people who are servants: They are people who are loved by others and they are people who make a difference." (John Maxwell)My Reflection: I think the quote is mostly true some servants are not loved by others. At times they are despised or even hated. However, being loved even if sometimes, and making a difference even if only on rare occasions, are two happy things for anyone.
June 19 I've been thinking about this:"It takes around two years to learn to speak. But a lifetime to learn what not to speak." (Anonymous)My Reflection: I feel that only recently, following nearly seven decades of being able to speak, that I'm finally learning to use my words to positively influence other people. Most importantly, as the quote says, in many situations I've learned what not to say, which is no less important a skill but even more difficult to master.
June 18 I've been thinking about this:"Everything you do that makes other people feel good about themselves makes you feel good about yourself as well. You can actually improve the way you feel by making other people feel important." (Brian Tracy)My Reflection: The quote is a specific instance of the general principle announced by Jesus, "Give and it will be given unto you." Today I'm going to do what I can to make people feel good about themselves. There is almost no better way than this for me to also feel okay about myself.
June 17 I've been thinking about this:"Perhaps the very best question that you can memorize and repeat, over and over, is, 'what is the most valuable use of my time right now?'" (Brian Tracy)My Reflection: I've put this question at the top of my todo list. It's a tough thing for me to deal with, but I'm determined to get better at it! I am moving forward, even though many days it seems to be at a creeping pace.
June 16 I've been thinking about this:"Positive self-direction is the action plan that all winners in life use to turn imagination into reality, fantasy into fact, and dreams into actual goals." (Denis Waitley)My Reflection: I've been wrestling with this for years. It's a good fight! (Everything is positive!)
June 15 I've been thinking about this:"The purpose of life is to live it, to taste experience to the utmost, to reach out eagerly and without fear for newer and richer experience." (Eleanor Roosevelt)My Reflection: According to the quote, the "purpose" for life is reflexive involving full engagement in life simply for the sake of the act of living itself. Roosevelt's prescription is perfectly reasonable if we conclude that life does have a purpose, even if we don't know what it is. In fact, a purpose-driven life is the only one ultimately worth living!
June 14 I've been thinking about this:"Happiness will never come to those who don't appreciate what they already have." (Anonymous)My Reflection: The quote states directly a truth that I've known for years. No amount of wealth will make me happy if I can't be happy without riches.
June 13 I've been thinking about this:"What you see is what you get, and who you feel like is who you really are." (Denis Waitley)My Reflection: True wisdom and strength are characterized by a simplicity that avoids empty show and that lives openly and honestly before others. "I am what I am!" Popeye's philosophy is a good one for me. It is good for anyone trying to live an authentic life!
June 12 I've been thinking about this:"The greatest battle is not physical but psychological. The demons telling us to give up when we push ourselves to the limit can never be silenced for good. They must always be answered by the quiet the steady dignity that simply refuses to give in. Courage! We all suffer. Keep going!" (Graeme Fife)My Reflection: The cadences of Graeme's quote ring like a trumpet call to joyful battle. I will never give up. I will keep fighting to be good for myself, good for others, and good for Heaven's sake.
June 11 I've been thinking about this:"You must realize, fear is not real. It's a product of thoughts you create. And do not misunderstand me, danger is very real. But fear is a choice. (After Earth)My Reflection: Appropriate fear fills our hearts with necessary "fight or flight" energies. However, awareness that fear is simply an emotion no matter how real danger might be provides an effective mental resource for managing and controlling it. I have lost the slightest fear of dangers for which neither fight nor flight would be of any value, simply accepting whatever disaster might follow as from the Hand of God.
June 10 I've been thinking about this:"I don't think of work as work and play as play. It's all living." (Richard Branson)My Reflection: I've lived like this for years. Work and play are ingredients that blend together in the satisfying life that I live these days. I embrace it all. Why wouldn't I?
June 9 I've been thinking about this:"My opinions change with new information." (Anonymous)My Reflection: Conforming my beliefs, opinions, and attitudes to the world as it continually unfolds before me is a difficult but worthwhile battle. Perhaps the struggle is essential to my happiness because shutting my mind to new information that doesn't conform to my current worldview is intellectually shabby and ultimately debilitating. I won't do it any more!
June 8 I've been thinking about this:"Keep praying, but be thankful that God's answers are wiser than your prayers." (William Culbertson III)My Reflection: The point of prayer isn't to get God to do our bidding but to do His will more completely and especially to serve others more effectively. He answers the prayers we would pray if we possessed His wisdom and knowledge. (I'm thankful for that!)
June 7 I've been thinking about this:"Don't be in such a rush to figure everything out. Embrace the unknown and let your life surprise you." (Robert Tew)My Reflection: When I was a child I was certain that I had figured everything out. Since then my confidence in my world-view has slipped so far that now I'm absolutely certain about very little. But it's been great! I really am embracing the unknown and life is surprising me in wonderful ways at every turn.
June 6 I've been thinking about this:"Even in the meanest sorts of labor, the whole soul of a man is composed into a kind of real harmony the instant he sets himself to work." (Thomas Carlyle)My Reflection: For a dozen years I engaged in the lowest kinds of physical work and wonder how much of "the meanest sorts of labor" Carlyle actually did. However, any labor performed with the right intentions and making some positive impact on the world brings with it a sense of harmony. At least in my case it always has.
June 5 I've been thinking about this:"For every minute you are angry, you lose 60 seconds of happiness. (Ralph Waldo Emerson)My Reflection: Habits and learned behaviors control our actions, so we might as well train ourselves to never lose those "60 seconds of happiness." (And I have.)
June 4 I've been thinking about this:"Always smile back at little children. To ignore them is to destroy their belief that the world is good." (Pam Brown)My Reflection: The quote catches a profound truth. We can harm children possibly wound them in ways from which they may never recover by merely not attending to them. They will learn that the world is good if we will be good to them.
June 3 I've been thinking about this:"When I was five years old, my Mom told me that happiness was the key to life. When I went to school, they asked what I wanted to be when I grew up, I wrote down 'happy.' They told me I didn't understand the assignment and I told them they didn't understand life." (Anonymous)My Reflection: We have to admire the child's wisdom in understanding the difference between what you do for a living and what you actually are. I understand life. I want to be happy. (And I am!)
June 2 I've been thinking about this:"No person on earth has the power to make you unhappy. There is no event, condition, situation, or person. Nobody told you this.... But it's self-evident." (Anthony de Mello)My Reflection: People can cause me pain, circumstances can be agonizing, but the quality of my underlying joy is a rock that will never again be shaken. This was not "self-evident," but came as a happy discovery. I've learned to remain joyful in the face of any circumstance.
June 1 I've been thinking about this:"There can be no happiness if the things we believe in are different from the things we do." (Freya Stark)My Reflection: I have maintained congruence between my philosophies and behaviors by discarding beliefs and dogmas that I had known for years were outmoded and erroneous while embracing truth in whatever form it comes to me. Doing so isn't always comfortable but continuing to "believe" what I know isn't true is crazy.
May 31 I've been thinking about this:"The very purpose of religion is to control yourself, not to criticize others. Rather, we must criticize ourselves. How much am I doing about my anger? About my attachment, about my hatred, about my pride, my jealousy? These are the things which we must check in daily life." (Dalai Lama)My Reflection: Obviously, not everyone considers religion to have the high "purpose" that the Dalai Lama finds in it, but it is one that I am focusing on. The main one. (These days, nearly the only one!)
May 30 I've been thinking about this:"There is always the danger that we may just do the work for the sake of the work. This is where the respect and the love and the devotion come in that we do it to God, to Christ, and that's why we try to do it as beautifully as possible." (Mother Theresa)My Reflection: I'm spending my life avoiding the danger referred to in the quote. I put my whole self into my writing and speaking, focusing on "heaven and the future's sakes," as Frost noted, and thus trying to do it "as beautifully as possible."
May 29 I've been thinking about this:"We all have insecurities, but we are not all controlled by them. Many people summon the necessary discipline to counterbalance those doubting inner voices with more productive truths about themselves and others." (Carolyn Hax)My Reflection: I am no longer mastered by my insecurities because I focus my thoughts and reflections on positive truths about myself and the world (as in these daily reflections, for example).
May 28 I've been thinking about this:"Fear does not have any special power unless you empower it by submitting to it." (Les Brown)My Reflection: Terrible things are going to happen to our planet and to me. However, "I will fear no evil" has become more than a pleasant thought; I no longer "empower fear" by "submitting to it" about anything. I fear nothing.
May 27 I've been thinking about this:"It isn't the big pleasures that count the most; it's making a great deal out of the little ones." (Jean Webster)My Reflection: Perhaps the greatest wisdom that has come to me is to take delight from the little pleasures that the quote speaks about. From my invigorating morning exercise to the pure delight of resting my tired bones at night, my life has become a rich harvest of daily blessings from which I deliberately reap the fruit of joy and satisfaction.
May 26 I've been thinking about this:"It isn't the big pleasures that count the most; it's making a great deal out of the little ones." (Jean Webster)My Reflection: Perhaps the greatest wisdom that has come to me is to take delight from the little pleasures that the quote speaks about. From my invigorating morning exercise to the pure delight of resting my tired bones at night, my life has become a rich harvest of daily blessings from which I deliberately reap the fruit of joy and satisfaction.
May 25 I've been thinking about this:"The world is more malleable than you think and it's waiting for you to hammer it into shape." (Bono)My Reflection: I've ceased any attempt to beat other people's lives and actions into the shapes that I have determined that they should be. However, simple acts of creativity (as inspired by the promptings of the Great Creator) become a golden hammer for beating the world into joyful shapes, starting by forming my own life into a blessed place for mind and spirit to occupy.
May 24 I've been thinking about this:"Don't let people pull you into their storms, pull them into your peace." (Kimberly Jones.)Attempting to pull people into my peace is a good way to live; the intention of maintaining a peace that I can pull people into is a shining goal indeed!
May 23 I've been thinking about this:Commitment means staying loyal to what you said you were going to do long after the mood you said it in." (Anonymous)I intend to do anything I say I'm going to do. For one thing, there would be no way to continue in the sunshine of joy if I regularly or even intermittently let down the people around me because of a change in my attitudes or feelings.
May 22 I've been thinking about this:"The most powerful combination in the universe is imagination mixed with love." (Anonymous)My Reflection: Love in the absence of imagination will grow dull; imagination without love will be cold. I want my acts of love to be vivid and bright; my dreams to be warm. And they are! By the grace of Heaven, they really are.
May 21 I've been thinking about this:"Success is liking yourself, liking what you do, and liking how you do it." (Maya Angelou)My Reflection: I enthusiastically support all three of Angelou's standards for success in my own development while encouraging them in other people whenever opportunity presents itself to do so.
May 20 I've been thinking about this:"Fail early, fail often, but always fail forward." (John Maxwell)My Reflection: If I can learn anything from a failure, then the act of learning transforms the failure into a positive event no matter how much pain might be involved. On the other hand, any "success" that fails to move me in a forward direction might be a disguised fiasco no matter how much satisfaction I might derive from the experience. Such "satisfaction" itself becomes debilitating in the long run.
May 19 I've been thinking about this:"What is opportunity, and when does it knock? It never knocks. You can wait a whole lifetime, listening, hoping, and you will hear no knocking. None at all.
You are opportunity, and you must knock on the door leading to your destiny." (Maxwell Maltz)My Reflection: This rebuttal to accepted wisdom has a ring of truth to it. I'm knocking on doors and having a great time anticipating what will be behind those that open to me! The act of knocking and the sense of anticipation have sufficient payoff by themselves to justify never giving up. As has been noted so often, the journey is itself the destination.
May 18 I've been thinking about this:"Commitment makes you capable of failing forward until you reach your goals. Cutting corners is really a sign of impatience and poor self-discipline." (John Maxwell)My Reflection: The commitment Maxwell speaks about is a diminishing quality in our modern society. Commitment isn't the only requirement for excellence but without it I will never accomplish anything worthwhile. Lack of commitment has been responsible for mediocre accomplishments and failed projects in my past. Thank God I am teachable! (But it's tough.)
May 17 I've been thinking about this:"Every test in our life makes us Bitter or Better. Every problem comes to make us or break us. Choice is our's whether we become Victim or Victor." (Anonymous)My Reflection: I'm sure the quote is true. I'm determined to be better, to never be broken, to never become a victim. By the grace of Heaven, I will overcome anything life throws at me. Everything will make me better!
May 16 I've been thinking about this:"There isn't a person anywhere who isn't capable of doing more than he thinks he can." (Henry Ford)My Reflection: I imagine some arrogant and delusional people escape Ford's blanket statement. But it is usually true. In my case, I'm sure it is true! But I'm willing for my horizons to expand. I'm working to overcome inertia and all the ways I can waste time.
May 15 I've been thinking about this:"We may encounter many defeats but we must not be defeated." (Maya Angelou)My Reflection: Any intention to learn from failures and blunders will help convert them into valuable resources. The big challenge is to stop repeating failures; to actually move on in order to make space for better failures in the future. (My success rate in doing that is below 100 percent, but I'm getting better.)
May 14 I've been thinking about this:"I believe in the miracles of God ... that can turn a mess into a lesson; a test into a testimony; a trial into a triumph; a victim into a champion." (Anonymous)My Reflection: My days continually overflow with good things because, on one hand, I put my whole self into life, and on the other I commit myself to receiving "the miracles of God" referred to in the quote that come as a dependable flow of lessons, testimonies, and triumphs. I'm no champion, but a merry survivor.
May 13 I've been thinking about this:"It is difficult to live in the present, ridiculous to live in the future, and impossible to live in the past. Nothing is as far away as one minute ago." (Jim Bishop)My Reflection: It may be difficult to live in the present but developing the habit doing so yields wonderful results. Cheerful anticipation and blessed memories contribute to making my present a cheerful place to dwell. I won't permit anything less.
May 12 I've been thinking about this:"Begin to see yourself as a soul with a body rather than a body with a soul." (Dr. Wayne Dyer)My Reflection: My body is wearing out and in a few years it will be gone. But the real Don Huntington will be just fine. "Dust thou art, to dust returnest," Longfellow said, "Was not spoken of the soul."
He was right!
May 11 I've been thinking about this:"Never underestimate your ability to change yourself. Never overestimate your ability to change others." (Dr. Wayne Dyer)My Reflection: I'm responsible to others, and to serve them as far as opportunity and resources permit. But I am responsible for none of them. Not one! Simply being responsible for myself is a large enough burden for me to carry!
May 10 I've been thinking about this:"With everything that has happened to you, you can either feel sorry for yourself or treat what has happened as a gift. Everything is either an opportunity to grow or an obstacle to keep you from growing. You get to choose." (Dr. Wayne Dyer)My Reflection: No event or circumstance will be an unmitigated tragedy for a teachable person. Viktor Frankl found a shining gift within the horrors of a concentration camp. The crucifixion turned out to be a blessing for everyone but Jesus' enemies and ultimately became a blessing even for some of them. I'll find the good in the worse circumstance that will ever befall me.
May 9 I've been thinking about this:"A beautiful expression of love is to want the best for someone whether it includes you or not." (Anonymous)My Reflection: The quote perfectly nails the single "expression" that divides love from lust. Desiring the best for the beloved is the essential ingredient that is missing from the heart and soul of any abusive spouse, parent, or friend.
May 8 I've been thinking about this:"Forgiving isn't something you do for someone else. It's something you do for yourself. It's saying, 'You're not important enough to have a stranglehold on me.' It's saying, 'You don't get to trap me in the past. I am worthy of a future.'" (Jodi Picoult)Forgiveness is one of the main forces freeing us from the chains that other people's behavior can impose on our spirits. I've cast off those chains forever! I forgive everybody! I even forgive myself! Cultivating an attitude of indomitable forgiveness makes pure joy possible
May 7 I've been thinking about this:"If you are going through hell, keep going." (Sir Winston Churchill)My Reflection: Wise advice from a man who, after being involved in two world wars, knew first-hand what "going through hell" was about! The admonition contains a fundamental wisdom that will be helpful in the midst of the worst thing that I am bound to go through today or any day.
May 6 I've been thinking about this:"In Los Angeles, it's like they jog for two hours a day and then they think they're morally right. That's when you want to choke people, you know? (Liam Neeson)My Reflection: This makes me laugh every time I read it! Even though I centered on other things than jogging, I used to be one of the "morally right" people that Neeson wants to choke. I got over it, however. Now I'm content with simply being good for myself, for others, and for Heaven's sake without any need to judge anybody for not accommodating their opinions to my beliefs or their behaviors to my standards. (The sense of letup is still wonderful!)
May 5 I've been thinking about this:"If you are still being hurt by an event that happened to you at twelve, it is the thought that is hurting you now." (James Hillman)My Reflection: When I realized that it was my own thoughts bringing me down, I began to deliberately cultivate better thoughts. Positive "self-talk" can bring the healing of Heaven to a troubled soul who is determined to be healed.
May 4 I've been thinking about this:"You are never too old to set another goal or to dream a new dream." (C.S. Lewis)My Reflection: I turned 74 last month and have more goals and dreams than I had when I was 24. (More than when I was 64!)
May 3 I've been thinking about this:"The act o f forgiveness takes place in our own mind. It really has nothing to do with the other person." (Louise L. Hay)My Reflection: The liberating truth is that I can forgive somebody whether the person is worthy of being forgiven or even desires to be. I refuse to have my own spirit soiled by the morally greasy residue left behind by the slightest feeling of anger or resentment. Unbounded forgiveness is the way to joy! And it is simply the right way to live.
May 2 I've been thinking about this:"It's never too late to start over, never too late to be happy." (Jane Fonda)My Reflection: If you spent only the end of your life in a state of grace, you would have redeemed whatever failures, betrayals, and wickedness had gone before. Winning the game on the final swing is a satisfying win; the thief on the cross changed the direction of his life during his final hours. He hit one out of the ballpark! Fonda was right. It's never too late!
May 1 I've been thinking about this:"Mistakes are proof that you are trying." (Anonymous)My Reflection: The ability to make mistakes and then quickly correct them can create good out of almost any condition or situation created by even the worst choices. The lessons learned, remedies applied, and wisdom gained can be powerful. I've got the mistake-making part down cold; the learning, wisdom, and improvement part is proving more difficult. But I'm obviously "trying."
April 30 I've been thinking about this:"Although the world is full of suffering, it is full also of the overcoming of it." (Helen Keller)My Reflection: I've learned what Helen Keller discovered that "overcoming suffering" helps develop the greatest strengths and the most beautiful character traits.
April 29 I've been thinking about this:"A good man would prefer to be defeated than to defeat injustice by evil means." (Sallust)My Reflection: The principle referred to in the quote seems increasingly absent from our contemporary culture of ruthless competition, which might account for the malaise that seems to be abroad a sense that life is ultimately dreary and useless. True joy and genuine satisfaction can't be maintained while using "evil means." Nor will an underlying sense of joy be completely absent from any noble defeat.
April 28 I've been thinking about this:"Life is a process of becoming, a combination of states we have to go through. Where people fail is that they wish to elect a state and remain in it. This is a kind of death." (Anais Nin)My Reflection: Perhaps arrested spiritual development is the most terrible of all human failings. So long as I resist change at any point in my life I will throttle the power of the spirit for renewal and growth. I'm never going to do that again!
April 27 I've been thinking about this:"The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy." (Martin Luther King, Jr.)My Reflection: Pressure will reveal the true character of both a rock and a person creating a diamond and a hero on one hand or gravel and a coward on the other. May Heaven equip us to respond with courage and grace to both challenge and controversy.
April 26 I've been thinking about this:"Life doesn't happen to you; it happens for you." (Byron Katie)My Reflection: The quote succinctly captures what my life has actually become during the past decade, or so. Negative energies including disappointment, rage, and jealousy have been swallowed up by my continual expectation that life is just what it should be worthy of being embraced and enjoyed rather than confronted or ever resisted.
April 25 I've been thinking about this:"Every man, wherever he goes, is encompassed by a cloud of comforting convictions, which move with him like flies on a summer day." (Bertrand Russell)My Reflection: For the past decade, or so, I've been on a mission of trying to rid myself of the "flies" that Russell refers to. I have a number of convictions, of course, but only some of them are "comforting." I no longer allow any belief to "move with me" that doesn't play some role in preserving my joy or in making me more effective in serving others.
April 24 I've been thinking about this:"If your morals make you dreary, depend on it, they are wrong." (Robert Louis Stevenson)My Reflection: I've come to believe that happiness and joy are part of our birthright as human beings, so the quote must be accurate. Good morals necessarily contribute to qualities that bring love and sunshine into our lives, making us good for ourselves, for others, and for Heaven above.
No dreariness allowed! Even in the Valley of Death, no dreariness allowed!
April 23 I've been thinking about this:"When people hurt you over and over, think of them like sandpaper. They may scratch and hurt you a bit, but in the end, you end up polished and they end up useless." (Anonymous)My Reflection: I love the sandpaper image! I search for and welcome some good to be found in every negative person, circumstance, or event a benefit that will strengthen me, help me to be more sensitive to the pain of others, or at least give me an an opportunity to demonstrate patience. The worst things will become my greatest stories!
April 22 I've been thinking about this:"The true meaning of life is to plant trees, under whose shade you do not expect to sit." (Nelson Henderson)My Reflection: I don't know if the quote actually captures "the true meaning of life," but my life obviously becomes more significant by making contributions to the world that may only be important long after I've vanished from the scene.
April 21 I've been thinking about this:"Death leaves a heartache no one can heal, love leaves a memory no one can steal." (Irish prayer)My Reflection: Contrary to the quote, when death takes from us a person who was close, the heartache will be healed when healthy processing is complete. The memory itself then becomes a source of solace and comfort. The loss is permanent but the memory is powerful. Poignant smiles and even laughter finally (if not completely) replace frowns and tears.
April 20 I've been thinking about this:Nothing that I can do will change the structure of the universe. But maybe, by raising my voice I can help the greatest of all causes goodwill among men and peace on earth." (Albert Einstein)My Reflection: I'm joining Einstein in raising my voice not in protest, complaint, nor accusation, but crying out in joy and singing the praises of a world that absolutely envelopes me in beauty and with people who bathe me in love. I'm spreading as much "goodwill among men and peace on earth" to the extent possible.
April 19 I've been thinking about this:"We either make ourselves miserable, or we make ourselves strong. The amount of work is the same." (Carlos Castaneda)My Reflection: I used to be miserable at times and the energy required by the misery was more than is now required to maintain my sense of happiness. In fact, such strength comes simply as a byproduct of maintaining myself as one awash in the grace of Heaven. It comes without struggle or battle.
April 18 I've been thinking about this:"Life does not have to be perfect to be wonderful." (Annette Funicello)My Reflection: A lot of grumpy and grouchy people are living miserable lives because they don't grasp the disconnection that the quote points out. They are sad and unhappy over the imperfection of everything that comes into their lives, from their spouse sitting next to them at the table to the behavior of the waiter serving their meal. I have learned, however, that life can be wonderful in the face of imperfect or even horrible people and circumstances. It just makes sense for a person to apply him/herself to mastering that essential lesson.
April 17 I've been thinking about this:"Service is the rent we pay for being. It is the very purpose of life, and not something you do in your spare time." (Marian Wright Edelman)My Reflection: All truly wise people, from Jesus to Einstein, have embraced the truth of today's quote. Acts of service are building stones for a life well-lived; service for others becomes a gift we give to ourselves.
April 16 I've been thinking about this:"To be content does not mean that you don't desire more, it means you're thankful for what you have and patient for what's to come." (Tony Gaskins)My Reflection: Successfully balancing desire, patience, and gratitude is one of the fundamental keys to genuine happiness, but the balance can be elusive to find and difficult to maintain. We will be successful only when achieving the balance remains a core value guiding our choices and behaviors.
April 15 I've been thinking about this:"Mark how fleeting and paltry is the estate of man yesterday in embryo, tomorrow a mummy or ashes. So for the hairsbreadth of time assigned to thee, live rationally, and part with life cheerfully." (Marcus Antonius)My Reflection: There is a tendency by people to become depressed when they fully realize the reality of their mortality. How much more reasonable, like Antonius, to "live rationally, and part with life cheerfully"? I am enjoying every day. I fully intend to enjoy my last day, when it comes. On that day, I'll say a cheerful goodbye, and then turn to take the next step, which I expect will lead to the greatest of all adventures.
April 14 I've been thinking about this:"Feelings are much like waves, we can't stop them from coming but we can choose which one to surf." (Jonatan Martensson)My Reflection: Perhaps nothing has been more important to my remaining awash in a sea of grace than my ability to divert dark emotions away from my heart whenever they begin to appear. This is more than positive thinking Heaven fills me with the ability to dance in the rain or, in the words of today's quote, to get up on the surfboard of faith and ride the waves of positive energies right up onto the beach.
April 13 I've been thinking about this:"You teach people how to treat you." (Anonymous)My Reflection: The observation is true but such "instruction" is never deliberate; we teach this by example. When I cherish, respect, and honor the people I come into contact with, they are naturally inclined to respond in kind. However, trying to manipulate them into treating me in these ways would be desperate and ineffective. Any sense of personal privilege or entitlement is odious and detestable.
April 12 I've been thinking about this:"Most problems in life are caused by two things: We act without thinking and we keep thinking without acting." (Anonymous)My Reflection: I'm working these days to ensure that thinking comes first followed by whatever action is appropriate and that I actually undertake the appropriate action. (Neither of these is easy because I'm capable both of folly and indolence.)
April 11 I've been thinking about this:"Education is a private matter between the person and the world of knowledge and experience, and has little to do with school or college." (Lillian Smith)My Reflection: Following decades of learning and a dozen years of higher education, I know that at every point true learning came as the result of a process that seemed very much like self-instruction. Teachers and professors could lead me to the fountains of knowledge and to the rivers of wisdom, but I did the drinking myself. I'm thankful for the principle since it frees me to continue my education. I'm learning new things all the time. I learned something amazing just yesterday!
April 10 I've been thinking about this:"Everything you want is just outside your comfort zone." (Robert G. Allen)My Reflection: I derive comfort from many blessings in my life including fellowship with my family members, friends, and fellow workers. I also take comfort and satisfaction from my work and from the rhythms of life, But such comforts must always remain byproducts. When pursuit of comfort becomes the goal or purpose of my life, I will always become anxious and unsatisfied ultimately uncomfortable indeed. Some discomfort is essential to any progress; some dissonance and pressure is essential. However, I've learned to not let them have the slightest effect on my underlying sense of indomitable joy.
April 9 I've been thinking about this:"Life is not a static thing. The only people who do not change their minds are incompetents, in asylums, and those in cemeteries." (Everett McKinley Dirksen)My Reflection: I love how Dirksen phrased this particular truth! May Heaven help me be sufficiently flexible about my beliefs to remain competent and sane until I end up in the cemetery.
April 8 I've been thinking about this:"The words of the tongue should have three gatekeepers: Is it true? Is it kind? Is it necessary?" (Arabian Proverb)My Reflection: The three "gatekeepers" mentioned in the quote are essential because I've learned by bitter experience that my tongue can get me in a lot of trouble if I speak when even one of the three are absent.
April 7 I've been thinking about this:"Most of the important things in the world have been accomplished by people who have kept on trying when there seemed to be no hope at all." (Dale Carnegie)My Reflection: I constantly resist feelings of hopelessness about the possibility of ever achieving my goals because such feelings are useless. I may ultimately fail even if I keep on trying, but I will surely fail if I ever stop. In fact, the surging uplift brought by hopefulness and anticipation might, themselves, be as important to my happiness as the success, if it comes. More important, perhaps!
April 6 I've been thinking about this:"Every person you talk to is a chance to change the world...." (Hugh Elliott)My Reflection: Perhaps I will not change the course of history in some way through acts of kindness or generosity that I perform today, but I'm going to perform them anyway. By doing so I will, at least, change my part of the world for the better.
April 5 I've been thinking about this:"Expectations are resentments under construction." (Anne Lamott)My Reflection: My life has become more peaceful and sweeter as I've consciously eliminated expectations concerning other people's attitudes and behaviors. The loss of resentment over lies, insults, and even betrayals has been a great relief.
April 4 I've been thinking about this:"You can't have a good day with a bad attitude, and you can't have a bad day with a good attitude." (Anonymous)My Reflection: The quote is demonstrably true since I haven't had "a bad day" for several years, even though the span of time has included a massive pulmonary embolism and a major colon operation. Good things are to be found in every circumstance, so I look for them. And I find them. By the grace of God I always find them!
April 3 I've been thinking about this:"A teacher affects eternity; he can never tell where his influence stops." (Henry Adams)My Reflection: The principle can be powerful for any of us who attempt to facilitate other people's spiritual growth. We are sewing seeds, most of which fall on hard ground or among the weeds. But some of them have the potential of growing into harvests beyond our anticipation or imagination.
April 2 I've been thinking about this:"You only have so much emotional energy each day. Don't fight battles that don't matter." (Joel Osteen)My Reflection: I've learned to conserve my emotions by directing them only towards things that really matter issues and circumstances that I can actually affect for good or that will amuse and encourage me and/or the people around me.
April 1 I've been thinking about this:"The only way to do great work is to love the work you do." (Steve jobs)My Reflection: I will never come close to doing the "great work" that the author of today's quote the founder of Apple accomplished. It is not important for me to do so. But what is of supreme importance is that I do the best job I can and to perform with excellence whatever tasks come my way. I'm working hard at that and really do love my job.
March 31 I've been thinking about this:
March 31 "We don't see things as they are; we see them as we are." (Anais Nin)My Reflection: The quote points out the important truth that circumstances are unable to alter my personal reality because, through intense and cheerful engagement in life, I am creating the wonderful emotional and spiritual realities in which I live from day-to-day.
March 30 I've been thinking about this:"The chief lesson I have learned in a long life is that the only way to make a man trustworthy is to trust him; and the surest way to make him untrustworthy is to distrust him and show your distrust." (Henry L. Stimson)My Reflection: The world changes to meet our expectations, so we really can help people be better by expecting them to be good; help them to become trustworthy by trusting them. That is the manner in which other people have greatly helped me and continue to do so. (Thank God!) I would rather take the chance of being cheated and defrauded than to express dark suspicions towards anybody who, as it turned out, deserved my trust.
March 29 I've been thinking about this:Could we change our attitude, we should not only see life differently, but life itself would come to be different. Life would undergo a change of appearance because we ourselves had undergone a change of attitude." (Katherine Mansfield)My Reflection: Mansfield's quote is demonstrably true, but the nagging problem remains that attitude really is difficult to change. I'm doing so only through an ongoing process of reflection, prayer, and repentance. The effort required for success at this isn't trivial, but I'm winning battles.
March 28 I've been thinking about this:The fact that an opinion has been widely held is no evidence whatever that it is not utterly absurd." (Bertrand Russell)My Reflection: I'm amazed at how long I held on to opinions, beliefs, and dogmas that I later came to realize really were "utterly absurd." I'm engaged in the liberating (though uncomfortable) process of questioning everything because I really want to know the truth.
March 27 I've been thinking about this:"It's the most unhappy people who most fear change." (Mignon McLaughlin)My Reflection: The fear that causes resistance makes such people unhappy. One of the reasons for the indomitable sense of joy that I experience these days is the fact that I'm not afraid of any change. I'll find energy and growth in whatever change that comes my way. Death's approach most of all!
March 26 I've been thinking about this:"One person can have a profound effect on another. And two people...well, two people can work miracles. They can change a whole town. They can change the world." (Diane Frolov and Andrew Schneider)My Reflection: I'm prepared and even eager to support other people on whatever central-life visions and projects they have going on. Who knows what particular collaboration might, indeed, "change the world" for good and forever?
March 25 I've been thinking about this:"When we do the best that we can, we never know what miracle is wrought in our life, or in the life of another." (Helen Keller)My Reflection: One of the most liberating releases comes from letting go of any responsibility for the outcomes of our choices and actions. Once we've taken any action with the appropriate intentions, energy, and prayer we can simply permit the results to come, whatever they may be.
March 24 I've been thinking about this:Many can argue that reality is as it is, but my experience is that the opposite is exactly true. Reality is ours for the making." (Asara Lovejoy)My Reflection: The quote catches what has become for me one of the most important and even dazzling truths: I really do create the reality that I then occupy. It is a great mystery to me, but it is a truth that I continually experience and that many wise people have reported.
March 23 I've been thinking about this:"We're not necessarily doubting that God will do the best for us; we are wondering how painful the best will turn out to be." (C.S. Lewis)My Reflection: Many people who are confident about the leading and protection of Heaven are, nevertheless, concerned about this issue. If my goal is to be comfortable and peaceful, I should worry about this. However, life is an adventure; the increase in wisdom and joy that comes while passing through dark valleys with the Shepherd's constant presence is better than simply remaining comfortable. I really would like to remain comfortable, but when trouble comes I'm going to get all the good out of it I can; I'm not going to waste it.
March 22 I've been thinking about this:"When you forgive someone you certainly release them from judgment, but without true change, no real relationship can be established." (William P. Young)My Reflection: I'm not sure the quote is completely correct. I will not permit any broken thing to bring darkness into my life so I will seek to restore harmony, at least from my point of view, with someone who will not repent of an evil act against me. Through forgiveness I can, in effect, change the past in essential ways without requiring anyone else to cooperate in the change. And I will do so whenever possible for God's sake and for my own peace of mind.
March 21 I've been thinking about this:"If I were allowed to give advice to the Churches, I would tell them to begin with a conversion among themselves, and to stop playing power politics." (Albert Einstein)My Reflection: Einstein, a non-practicing Jew, offered the same advice to churches that I can imagine Jesus Christ offering. Righteousness is always an inside-out process; the world needs transformation not coercion. It should start with us. With me.
March 20 I've been thinking about this:The Wisdom of Dr. Seuss
"You have brains in your head. You have feet in your shoes.
You can steer yourself any direction you choose.
You're on your own. And you know what you know.
And YOU are the one who'll decide where to go...."My Reflection: The best wisdom is that which makes people smile and that a child can understand. From beyond the grave the beloved Dr. Seuss speaks profound wisdom to my heart as well as to my head. Today I'm going to "decide where to go."
March 19 I've been thinking about this:"A voice is a human gift; it should be cherished and used,to utter fully human speech as possible. Powerlessness and silence go together. (Margaret Atwood)My Reflection: I am striving to eliminate from my life both unproductive silence and useless chatter. But doing so is a difficult goal. May God help me to use my voice for such "fully human" purposes as encouraging, cherishing, and love. And may He do so today!
March 18 I've been thinking about this:"Miracles never cease to amaze me. I expect them, but their consistent arrival is always delightful to experience." (Mark Victor Hansen)My Reflection: Hansen's quote illustrates once again the puzzling and powerful truth that reality lives up to (or down to) our expectations. For this reason, I am constantly moving among miracles myself. I live in a state of constant expectation.
March 17 I've been thinking about this:"If someone treats you like dirt, there is something wrong with them, not you. Normal people don't go around destroying other human beings." (Akhenaton)My Reflection: For a number of years I have been conscious of the importance of being able to deny to other people the power rob me of my sense of well-being through such things as malice, hatred, and jealousy. This isn't learned in an instant, but it gets easier through practice.
March 16 I've been thinking about this:"It really doesn't matter how many classes you attend, what you read or what you say. If you are not willing to do something different, nothing will change." (Marie Kane and Kay Hunt)My Reflection: The quote gets at a fundamental problem I wrestled with for years. I finally became "willing to change" when I felt that not changing had simply grown intolerable.
March 15 I've been thinking about this:"Adversity borrows its sharpest sting from our impatience." (Bishop Horne)My Reflection: I finally realized that any impatience never did a bit of good whenever people weren't doing what I wanted them to do, or an appointment wasn't showing up on time, or things were happening at a tempo slower than I preferred, More importantly, impatience always damaged the sense of peace and the joyful spirit that I now believe should be my normal state of mind. I simply refuse to be impatient about anything any more.
March 14 I've been thinking about this:"It's not that some people have willpower and some don't. It's that some people are ready to change and others are not." (James Samuel Gordon)My Reflection: I am planning and working for the life that I hope to receive. It is still a struggle, full of failures and setbacks, but my life really is headed in an upward direction because there's been a sea change in the weather between my ears.
March 13 I've been thinking about this:"They must often change who would be constant in happiness or wisdom." (Confucius)My Reflection: I have embraced the principle of flexibility in my beliefs, behaviors, and especially my opinions in order to ensure the happiness and wisdom that Confucius refers to. The qualities of stubbornness, dogmatism, and obstinacy always pull down relationships. How many times have I thought that I was being firm when I was simply being mule-headed? I'm done with that forever!
March 12 I've been thinking about this:"The difference you make in someone else's life will always be smaller than the difference it will make in your own." (Mike Dooley)My Reflection: It is "better to give than to receive" because the emotional and spiritual "payoff" really does become more important than whatever small thing I did in helping another.
March 11 I've been thinking about this:"You will not be punished for your anger, you will be punished by your anger." (Attributed to Buddha)My Reflection: Each of us is born into the world with a birthright of happiness and joy. I fall short of my potential to experience joy fully whenever I allow any circumstance to rob me of that blessed legacy. I punish myself every time I give way to any anger except that which will produce righteous fruit. (I can't remember if that ever actually happened.)
March 10 I've been thinking about this:"When you blame others you give up your power to change." (Anonymous)My Reflection: I am reluctant ever to give up the power to alter a situation by blaming another person for it. What's the point? If I'm not responsible then I can't fix it; I'm simply a victim.
March 9 I've been thinking about this:"A wise man should have money in his head, but not in his heart." (Jonathan Swift)My Reflection: All of us are in contact with people who hold their wealth in their hearts. They are beautiful people to know and to associate with. On the other hand, greedy, grasping, stingy people whose hearts are tuned to acquiring and holding on to their money become tiresome companions, or worse.
March 8 I've been thinking about this:"Sometimes it's a form of love just to talk to somebody that you have nothing in common with and still be fascinated by their presence." (David Byrne)My Reflection: The quote encourages a "form of love" that I am trying to embrace. I know that doing so is good and even righteous because I have greatly appreciated the rare times when strangers have embraced me in just this way. (It's another Golden Rule thing.)
March 7 I've been thinking about this:"Life becomes religious whenever we make it so: when some new light is seen, when some deeper appreciation is felt, when some larger outlook is gained, when some nobler purpose is formed, when some task is well done." (Sophia Blanche Lyon Fahs)My Reflection: I'm on a decades-long process of pulling away from religion as a system of belief that is insulated from and denies the possibility of anyone except co-religionists having any wisdom, faith, or standing before God. However, if we could define "religion" as the quote does, I would confess to being a devoutly religious human being or at least intend to be.
March 6 I've been thinking about this:"The main dangers in this life are the people who want to change everything or nothing." (Nancy Astor)My Reflection: I'm successfully avoiding the two extremes that the quote warns against by a sense of confident and wholehearted submission to a heavenly plan that I feel is constantly at work through the circumstances surrounding me. Frustration and impatience no longer find any place in my mind.
March 5 I've been thinking about this:"Turbulence is life force. It is opportunity. Let's love turbulence and use it for change." (Ramsay Clark)My Reflection: I imagine the hatching eagle wishes to return to the warm comfort of the shell and given a choice the caterpillar would remain safely in the cocoon. However, the turbulence and discomforts of the world must to be faced or the chick, the caterpillar, and I will never take wings and soar.
March 4 I've been thinking about this:"The mind has exactly the same power as the hands; not merely to grasp the world, but to change it." (Colin Wilson)My Reflection: I'm never going to solve the current world problems nor am I particularly interested in doing so. But a century from now, by the grace of God, the world might be a better place because of the little differences I am making today. Perhaps right now....
March 3 I've been thinking about this:"In times of revolutionary changes it is the life-long learner who is best able to adapt." (Eric Hoffer)My Reflection: I'm a life-long learner and have already learned things today that I didn't need to know. I simply learned them for the sake of the learning. At least in this way, I might be preparing myself for the "revolutionary changes" that Hoffer speaks about.
March 2 I've been thinking about this:"Changes are not only possible and predictable, but to deny them is to be an accomplice to one's own necessary vegetation." (Gail Sheehy)My Reflection: Life is wonderfully satisfying to me, but I am always ready for a change. I can't wait to see what happens next. This feels like the right way to live!
March 1 I've been thinking about this:"Faith is not the belief that God will do what you want. It is the belief that God will do what is right." (Max Lucado)My Reflection: For years I've been thinking about the supremely important truth that Lucado catches so clearly. Prayers that are simply attempts to get God to do what we want Him to do are pointless and arrogant. Rather, through prayer we discern His will and receive His power for obedience, forgiveness, and for cheerfully or at least courageously embracing His Plan for us and for others, whatever the Plan turns out to be.
February 28 I've been thinking about this:"If you are miserable or bored in your work ... or dread going to it ... then God is speaking to you. He either wants you to change the job you are in or more likely he wants to change you." (Bruce Larson)My Reflection: Thoughtful and reflective people are able to find some satisfaction in doing any job. A passion for excellence is the "change" that naturally promotes satisfaction a passion that will be created and sustained if we learn to do everything "for Heaven's sake." Such passion is the most effective way we can wait for the big Purpose of our lives to show up, or to finally become aware that we are already following it.
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