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A Snippet of Encouragement for Abundant Living
(based upon his book How To Put Your Whole Self In)
A Snippet of Encouragement for Abundant Living
(based upon his book How To Put Your Whole Self In)
October 3 Speak Truth SoftlyShouting at people is never an effective communication method. I've learned to gently speak the truth to others with the reduced volume that God uses these days when He quietly speaks truth to me.
October 2 Turn on VoicesCreate within yourself a chorus of voices supplying positive affirmations that will build up your spirit and encourage you to engage in those pursuits that positively impact your own life and the lives of those around you.
October 1 Grow UpBecome one of the mature human beings who fully engage in the processes of life and are no longer forced to live according to the debilitating "scripts" and depressing messages that we all have received since childhood.
September 30 Be Content with Not KnowingOs Guinness truthfully said, "We don't always know why, but we know why we trust God who knows why." This assurance enables us to embrace the miraculously and often astonishing blessings that lie on the other side of any pain and loss.
September 29 Go With the Plan"Things don't just happen they're planned." I have witnessed on countless occasions how events in my life that seemed negative or even tragic lead to wonderful outcomes. On many occasions, I came to realize that a negative event was necessary for the wonderful outcome to occur.
September 28 Expect MiraclesPeople who imagine themselves to be immersed in an ongoing series of miraculous events are able to insert themselves into their lives with greater enthusiasm than those who live as though the circumstances of their lives were meaningless, chaotic, or even malicious.
September 27 EngageEngagement in life becomes effortless when we regard life as a matrix of miracles expressed through family members, friends, and the people with whom we worship and work. Disengaging, in that case, would require effort.
September 26 Set Your Spirit FreeWe can live in emotional freedom. For example, every year for the last couple of decades I have been able to honestly say, "I have never been more fulfilled or more joyful than during this past year." It hardly mattered that I got cancer in one of those years, had a massive pulminary embolism in another, and for three years during that time I had no steady source of income.
September 25 Embrace Indomitable PeaceIndomitable joy and serenity are reserved for those who maintain a capacity for wonder, a feeling of humble uncertainty, and a fresh sense of always getting started about the real business of life. After all, Jesus declared that entrance into His Peaceable Kingdom is reserved for people who become like children.
September 24 Enjoy Two-Minute VacationsWe can renew mind and spirit by taking "two-minute vacations" during which we might experience a fresh sense of wonder or even elation at some otherwise unnoticed item in our environment, mind, or memory.
September 23 Keep Moving UpwardsUnforced rhythms of both work and repose can continually tend in an upward spiral in the direction of joy and harmony and never downward towards confusion and sorrow.
September 22 Stay Really AliveA simple change of viewpoint is sufficient to convert a tiresome duty into an interesting opportunity. Grace helps to conform our actual experience to Gandhi's principle that we be "vibrantly alive in repose" and "still in the midst of activity."
September 21 Engage Others with JoyRemaining engaged with life and with other people at a continually joyful level will diminish our inclinations to grow panicky or upset when things go wrong. We can sometimes keep our head when those about us are losing theirs, as Kipling advised.
September 16 Fully and completely engaging in life provides effective protection against the forces of monotony and world-weariness. As we become engaged in living we find the cycles of life going on about us to be increasingly more interesting; people become endlessly fascinating. We eventually won't remember the last time we were bored.
September 19 Have FunWe engage wholeheartedly in life by indulging deeply in appropriate pleasures. Such disciplines as goodness, self-control, and gentleness set free our capacities to enjoy life to the full.
September 16 Don't Stop! Keep Moving!Cumulative energy can result when insignificant individual events are repeated a sufficient number of times. A single step is of no consequence. A hundred steps might take you to the corner of the street. A hundred thousand steps will take you across a town. A million steps will carry you to the other side of the planet. As Conrad Hilton noted: "Successful men keep moving."
September 16 Joy-filled relationships with spouse, children, friends, fellow-workers, members of our religious community, and extended family all result from "a great wind blowing us across the heavens," to paraphrase the words of a Native American Poet.
September 16 Lasting happiness never comes as a reward for anything we have done. It only comes from my putting ourselves into the position of receiving what the Universe, after all, offers as a gift.
September 15 Ignore Things You Can't FixFretting about whether we are being shown the respect we deserve, or whether we are coming down with something, or whether politicians are carrying out their duties.... Let's release these negative and pointless concerns.
September 14 Be Happy with Your LifeThe fact is, if you can't be happy without money and fame, then you would be unhappy with them, as well.
September 13 Resist IgnoranceBecoming wise involves resisting the comforts of deliberate ignorance.
September 12 Sow For a Happy HarvestBy planting seeds of loving service we renew connections with people around us and prepare for harvests of joy.
September 11 Blow Away the Bad StuffPermit the winds of grace to blow away both unforgiving attitudes and unforgiven feelings because they are powerfully and indivisibly connected with each other and with your own health and spiritual wellbeing.
September 10 Embrace the Modern WorldAnyone born at any previous time in history would regard modern civilization as providing a heavenly plane of existence. However, if my life is untouched by grace, I will be miserable even if I live in a time and place offering aspirin, the World Wide Web, and flush toilets.
September 9 Release with Mind & HeartTerrible things are going on in this world. Some day I will die probably die hard. However, no possibility or circumstance has the power to overthrow my continual joy and even delight.
September 8 Make Happiness Your GoalSix weeks before he died, a reporter asked Elvis Presley, "Elvis, when you first started playing music, you said you wanted to be rich, famous and happy.
"Are you happy?"
"I am lonely as hell" he replied.
I am sure in his more reflective moments Elvis would have admitted that of the three goals, he really had missed the most important one.
September 7 Ignore Negative CircumstancesYou can maintain peacefulness, or at least recover it, when your attitudes of peace and joy no longer depend for their existence upon external conditions or circumstances.
September 6 Just ServeBe a servant to the people around you and don't try to straighten out their opinions regarding things they aren't asking your advice about. After all, when is the last time you were able to change anybody's mind about anything?
September 5 Be a Cheerful SurvivorThe happiest people are not those who have no problems but are those cheerful survivors who have overcome difficulties and even tragedies. "Circumstances are the rulers of the weak; they are but the instruments of the wise." (Samuel Lover)
September 4 Find Peace Through ServiceServing others ennobles life and empowers us to put away fretfulness and worry.
September 3 Fix Your AttitudeI've come to the magnificent surmise that genuine quality of life depends upon attitude and never upon circumstance.
September 2 Enlarge Yourself Through KnowledgeMy opinion about Darwin changed completely when I finally read Origin of Species. My opinions about homosexuals completely when I actually became friends with some gay people. My attitude towards atheists changed when I actually got to know some atheists on a personal level. My attitude towards Mormons.... (I could go on-and-on).
September 1 Question YourselfCritical thinking opens mind and heart to good things, because we grow and change as we engage with ideas that differ from our opinions and preconceptions.
August 31 Just Do What You ShouldYou will never feel guilt about the past nor anxiety about the future as long as you simply do in the present the things that Heaven directs your hands to do. Do that today! Now!
August 30 Don't Worry. (No, Really! Just Don't)Worry robs us of the joy and the sense of accomplishment that are rightfully ours. Worry never fixes anything. Let's refuse to go there. Ever!
August 29 Be a CarrierI have come to believe that the grace of Heaven is a divine infection. It's an STD, a socially transmitted disease that we catch from each other.
August 28 Be At PeaceThe contemporary admonition to "just deal with it!" is fundamentally wise. Learn simply to take responsibility for your emotional wellbeing and to put dark things away from your mind and spirit forever.
August 27 Be BlessedHeaven offers boundless resources for blessing is through a Divine Presence and especially through the dynamic people that overflow our lives every day.
August 26 Live FreeLet us not hedge our lives about with worthless passions and costly but useless possessions wasting every day in hollow attempts to pay the price for Protection and Freedom that the Universe actually offers to us without cost.
August 25 Be At PeaceOne of the great things about putting my whole self into life is that I can't remember the last time I had any feelings of desperation about anything.
August 24 Grab the PowerDynamic heavenly energies surrounding us on all sides like a cloud are far more powerful than the dark forces that threaten to drain us of our joy and to bring us down.
August 23 Prepare for the Big SleepTreat the final rest when it comes as a blessed sleep, like the one that marks the conclusion of each 24-hour period. With all temporal rhythms and earthly cadences at an end, anticipate the experience to be the sunrise of an Eternal Day.
August 22 Be DazzledI am continually amazed by the people I meet every day; I come to love every one of them from my heart. Why shouldn't I do so? It's a great way to live!
August 21 Energize YourselfAn unfailing source of energy is available to empower us for growth and renewal of our spirit. The great thing we can come to understand is that we are awash in a sea of grace.
August 20 Have FaithFaith in the ultimately benevolent character of the universe delivers us from worry. Fretfulness would then reveal a fundamental hypocrisy. Worry becomes impossible without doubt.
August 19 Only BelieveYou won't spend another minute being anxious if you really do believe that the hand of a benevolent Master is shaping the parts of your life making things work out for the best no matter how momentarily terrible current realities may seem.
August 18 Don't Bother Being DefensiveSince defensive behavior is always harmful, stop being defensive. It takes two people to have a fight; make up your mind never to be the second person.
August 17 Get In TuneThe brief melody and lyrics of any life comprise no solo composition but are part of a vast choral production, a celestial oratorio directed by a Cosmic Composer.
August 16 Find HappinessHappiness is where we find it. The wonders of nature and of the beautiful people who surround us can overflow life and fill our days with pleasure and joy.
August 15 Look Inside for the JoyThirteen-year-old Anne Frank was able to write in her famous journal, "Think of all the beauty still left around you and be happy." She found joy in her heart and not at all in her circumstance.
We can too!
August 14 Don't Be Too SureI'm grateful to be as uncertain of anything as some people are sure of everything.
August 13 Take Control of Your EmotionsIt is disappointing that some people can live a lifetime without learning that they are in charge of their feelings. To continually burden ourselves and those around us with a weight of negative and critical attitudes, feelings, and opinions would represent a terrible spiritual failure.
August 12 Get the Darkness out of Your HeartWhen someone cuts us off in traffic, it is inaccurate to say that the person made us angry. The person's action merely sets free the anger that we had in our spirit. Jesus wouldn't have been angered, for example. Or Mother Teresa. Or Gandhi. Or Buddha.
August 11 Know When to Be QuietLet's express thoughts that preserve harmony and bring peace, or else hold our tongue. When we are at our best, circumstances will sometimes be able to make a song of our silences.
August 10 Stop Answering That Door!Whenever Depression knocks on my heart, seeking entrance, I send Hopefulness to answer the door.
August 9 Focus On the PositivePut your whole self into relationships with others by avoiding needlessly negative attitudes. Everybody at some point surely deserves your respect and even admiration. That's what we should focus on because it is what we would wish others to focus on when they look at use.
August 8 Let Slander PassWhen someone says something bad about us that is not true, let's just let it go, consoling ourselves with the sure knowledge that the truth will eventually drive away the falsehood. Or if it is true then we should feel bad long enough to confess sincerely to anyone we wronged, and then just move on.
August 7 Don't Defend YourselfNever be defensive about anything. Attempts at revenge, justification, or getting even are always detrimental to your emotional health. Humility yields great social power and peace of mind.
August 6 Don't Stop LovingFollowing five decades of marriage I still enjoy giving my wife warm hugs at the beginning and ending of each day. Every time I leave her to run an errand I hug her again and we tell each other "I love you." Each time it feels good!
August 5 Live with the Breaks OffFull engagement with life requires us to throw ourselves into the processes of living whether struggling with cancer or on vacation in Yosemite by opening a Source of joy that is brighter than the darkness of disease and greater than Half Dome's mighty summit.
August 4 Don't GossipA wise person avoids gossip both by not listening to it and by not spreading it to others. What good could be served by spreading negative information about another person regardless of whether or not it is true?
August 3 Stop Looking for GratitudeIf I serve someone from a sense of true humility I will neither look for nor even particularly notice whether the person is grateful or not because of the joy that comes from the simple privilege of being able to contribute to the happiness of someone I love.
August 2 Be Good for OthersI am good for the people around me to the extent that I embrace them without paying attention to whatever faults or shortcomings I might notice, except as a rare opportunity to offer helpful advice or to make an occasional loving rebuke.
August 1 Care for Others and Show Them You DoShow people that you care about them beginning with simply listening to them when they speak. Keep your mouth shut as much as possible.
July 31 Stop Pointless ArgumentsLet's be prepared to rebuke injustice or to correct error when doing so actually makes things better. However, when people simply say things that we don't agree with, let's try to resist jumping in to argue our own position. (That's difficult sometimes.)
July 30 Be GenuineEliminate the frustration and hypocrisy that will result from any attempt to attain to a goodness that lies beyond your reach or pretending to live by a standard that you don't actually practice!
July 29 Embrace DestinyThe task of shaping destiny remains unfinished until life ends. The egg is always hatching, and I'll kill the life inside if I ever stop the process. I am just getting started.
July 28 Don't Worry About the Big PictureDon't concern yourself with details about whatever Grand Scheme is planned for this world. Simply commit yourself to embracing whatever purpose the Universe has for you today.
July 26 Take the Three Keys to HappinessConfess your failures, accept forgiveness, put away any resentment or anger that you might have against anybody in the world, and embrace joy.
July 25 Move Forward; Move UpThe processes of confession, repentance, and self-forgiveness empower me to deny tiresome and depressing patterns of personal failure and resentment permitting me to move forward and upward.
July 24 Forgive Everyone, Everything, AlwaysIn the absence of higher motivations such as love and kindness it would still be possible to engage in forgiveness as a fundamentally selfish act and to forgive people because of the need to free ourselves from the acids of resentment that will otherwise burn into our soul.
July 23 Put Bad Stuff Behind Your BackBy continually putting behind us the mistakes and failures of the previous day, we are able continually to rediscover sources of forgiveness and grace that make it possible to move beyond the blunders and absurdities committed by others and especially those committed by ourselves.
July 22 Move Towards WisdomJoni Mitchell's lyrical song, "Both Sides Now," captures stages of awareness from my history because my own attitudes have moved from illusion through disillusionment to a final state in which I understand that ultimate Truth is greater than I can comprehend or define although I sense it is wonderful beyond belief.
July 21 Harvest WisdomWe harvest wisdom, insight, and peace as we confront even the most terrible events and circumstances with acceptance, reflection, and resignation.
July 20 Let Grace Overflow Your LifeI can't imagine a more compelling "proof" for the power of grace than the fact that I go to bed every night grateful that I hadn't done a single thing that day that I didn't want to do or spent a minute with someone whom I wished would go away.
July 19 Use Negative Energy to GrowWe grow as we embrace difficult circumstances with both arms. I discovered things about healthy attitudes through my bout with melanoma that I could never have found otherwise and learned lessons about the comfort of God through the death of people dear to me that I would never have learned in any other way.
July 18 Be MoveableThe one unquestionable truth by which I order my life is the fact that the universe is under control of benevolent forces that continually move me towards the light, providing I am willing to be moved. Purpose and planning lie beneath everything as I simply permit Heaven to shape the content and direction of my life.
July 17 Become Better Through Genuine HumilityUnshakable certainty about almost anything is possible only by pretending a particular dogma or belief to be absolutely true while shutting out contradictory realities. We might as well admit to walking through life with an intellectual limp, which is one of the most important and ultimately satisfying of all realizations about ourselves.
July 16 Make Use of ConflictWe grow and thrive by processing experience and learning that challenges our belief system and perhaps even forcing us to confront and question the basic principles by which we have always lived.
July 15 Be Thankful About ThisBe grateful every day for the positive energies that keep flowing to you that can lift you above the vagaries of both chance and the limitations of your personality, thus giving you some measure of control over the direction in which your life is heading.
July 14 Just LoveLife becomes more satisfying when we intend to engage wholeheartedly with the people around us and with Heaven above.
July 13 Let Go With LoveThe power of unreciprocated love is a spiritual truth that any wise person can discover by personal experience. We eventually come to realize that Buddha was right when he said, "In the end these things matter most: How well did you love? How fully did you love? How deeply did you learn to let go?"
July 12 Overcome GuiltWhen guilt and doubt assail you, immediately open your heart to a fresh flow of forgiveness and reassurance that will pulverize any lingering effects of the darkness.
July 11 Accept EverythingGiving in to any temptation to look with disdain or contempt upon another kills the possibility of true compassion and kindness. When religion or opinions serve to cut you off from others, just stop being so opinionated or religious.
July 10 Don't Argue with AnyoneOne of the reasons I maintain a simple attitude towards life and and attempt to avoid arguing is because I've never been able to change anybody's mind about anything. I'm in this world to be a servant to the people around me and not to try to straighten out their opinions regarding things they aren't asking my advice about. It's all good!
July 9 Just DanceI wish to dance through this world amazed by the miraculous things I see around me, beneath my feet, and above my head. I want to live my life in perfect harmony with the One who inhabits them all. And by His grace, I usually do!
July 8 Humbly Admit Your ShortcomingsSome of us who go to church every week aren't particularly good people. We have true humility, except that we sometimes are filled with pride. We have perfect tolerance, except that we sometimes pronounce harsh judgments upon others. Freely admitting our imperfections is an act of humility that might protect us from the sin of hypocritically maintaining a facade of supposed holiness.
July 7 Just ListenPity the people who keep their heads down and their ears closed to the music of the spheres that continually wells up around them. The harmonies are pianissimo but not muted. The melodies of love that flow through the Universe will wash pains and sorrows from every prepared heart.
July 6 Find Your TuneCreate a little tune as part of a vast musical production that The Universe has been performing since our primitive ancestors looked towards the heavens with the first intimation of the truth that each life is part of a grand orchestra directed by a Celestial Composer composing a cosmic concert from musical threads supplied by each of us performers.
July 5 Embrace Healthy SkepticismHealthy skepticism will protect you from believing everything you hear or even think. Nevertheless, strong currents of true wisdom will pass the filter of healthiest skepticism every day as you are continually lifted by the intelligence and insights of others.
July 4 Enjoy Another FreedomWhen life is filled with activities of service for Heaven and for others and we are creatively engaging with the world, then we are free to rise above the worries and concerns that otherwise would pull us down. What better "freedom" than this?
July 3 Get Up on Those ShouldersWe should seek wisdom and teachings from a wide variety of sources because we can see some distance ahead when elevated by the smallest amount of wisdom and will develop a breathtaking view of the possibilities of the world if, like Newton, we are able to stand on the shoulders of giants.
July 2 Serious Business"Joy is the serious business of heaven," as C.S. Lewis noted. Therefore, when we continually offer ourselves as an instrument of His peace, why should we be amazed when The Heavenly Father performs His "business" in our lives?
July 1 Forgive and Move OnI no longer spend a moment worrying about whether people who hurt or insult me deserve to be forgiven. Any act of forgiving others becomes a gift I give myself because anger, bitterness, and resentment will diminish or even extinguish the qualities of joy, serenity, and cheerfulness that Heaven intended as my birthright.
June 30 Find Joy Through ServiceService for others creates a quiet strength that dissipates dark forces of stress and dissatisfaction, which would prevent us from experiencing life at its most joyful and fulfilling levels.
June 29 Use Troubles for GrowthHelen Keller used the circumstance of her life as a basis for challenging and changing her world. I am confronting the dysfunctional things in my own life and, like Keller with her blindness and deafness, channeling them into sources of spiritual power and service.
June 28 Find the Genuine Good LifeThe essence of The Good Life for me is founded upon serving others and letting Heaven work out the results.
June 27 Channel God By Serving OthersService for others connects you to something greater than yourself. People become channels through which God comes to you.
June 26 Free Yourself!Genuine freedom of the spirit comes from an attitude of simplicity towards the material world and some degree of minimalism towards one's possessions.
June 25 Believe There's PurposeWhen we can't discern any meaning and purpose in the complex matrix of existence that we are caught up in, it's enough simply to know that an Ultimate Purpose can exist without our knowing what it is.
June 24 Don't Bother with DeathSomeday we will die. The actual experience in that other dimension will be more wonderful than the best day of our earthly existence. In the meantime, let us live joyfully one day at a time, including that final day. Why not?
June 23 Be TeachableBe willing at any time to reassess your worldview and your understanding of truth. People who are humble are easier to live with.
June 22 Love AnywaySome people will not understand, trust, or accept our love. After all, Jesus was crucified by people He Loved absolutely. We don't focus on results.
June 21 Keep Connected to HeavenI keep the telephone of my mind open to messages of peace, harmony, health, love, and abundance. Then, whenever Doubt, Anxiety, and Fear attempt to call me, they keep getting a busy signal and eventually add my number to their cosmic DO NOT CALL list.
June 20 Embrace LifeI no longer struggle with life but continually embrace it and am constantly dazzled by the way in which life keeps hugging back.
June 19 Live Above the MessUnpleasant experiences and even tragedies may shake me up but they no longer can pull me down. I've learned to be content whatever my circumstances. Really content!
June 18 Don't Be DefensiveAs part of my own coming to humility, I am trying never to be defensive about anything.
June 17 Focus on SpiritTrue Joy is an inside-out project, not determined by outward circumstances and often disconnected from them.
June 16 Don't CriticizeSharp criticism will never be effective in helping anyone become better or to do better because critical comments by others never helped us to improve.
June 15 Know What You Don't KnowBertrand Russell wrote: "A big problem in this world is that the idiots are convinced that they know everything and the intelligent people are full of doubts." He's probably right because I have never met a fool who entertained the slightest uncertainty about his/her opinions. More than once I've entertained such foolish certainties myself.
June 14 Pay Attention to the SilenceI only experience the full impact of the Divine Presence when I listen to the silence that fills the heavenly spaces and to what isn't being said but that I, nevertheless, come to realize and understand.
June 13 Wise UpAt times, we will grow anxious, depressed, or angry. However, there need be nothing dismaying about such a break if we simply regard the lapse itself as one of the events in life to learn from and then use the lesson to encourage wiser behaviors in the future.
June 12 Let It GoWhen someone has gone astray, if I am not able to intervene with a gentle and helpful rebuke then I try to remove the knowledge of the person's mis-behavior from my mind. The Bible says that God has put my sin behind His back, so that's where I intend to put it for others.
June 11 Practice WisdomOnly by practical application can knowledge be driven into our hearts and then converted into wisdom that will finally make us good for ourselves, for others, and for Heaven's sake.
June 10 Simply LoveLife becomes sweeter when we truly love the people around us! We can simply decide to never get uselessly upset. And not tell people off. And move ourselves out of inappropriate competitions. That kind of righteousness is simple. Aggression, competition, road rage, and trying to get the best of the people around us complicates relationships. Or destroys them.
June 9 Don't Push Away Joy With Negative FeelingsWhenever angry, disappointed, or petulant, you are permit negative energies to push away the joy, peace, and happiness that could otherwise have been filling your heart and mind.
June 8 Just Forgive And Let it GoSuccessful engagement with life is powered by the core energies that acts of forgiveness can supply, both as we receive pardon for the things we have done and, in turn, as we pardon ourselves and others. Everybody!
June 7 Stay on the PathBecome a pilgrim in the company of a Faithful Companion who knows the way ahead, leads you by the hand, and fills you with love for fellow-travelers who share the road with you.
June 6 Follow The Essential TruthLet's admit that our grasp on Truth is limited and we don't know very much. However, let's seek crystal clear truth about the attitudes and tasks required of us right now because that's enough truth!
June 5 Don't Be So SureThe older we get the less confidence we will have about our ability to reason things through to unquestionable assurance that we are absolutely right about anything.
June 4 Care for OthersEvery day I pray that I will be a blessing to each person I meet that day. The practice has transformed the quality of my life.
June 3 Reach Your Personal BestEvery day get out of bed with your mind filled with things you are going to do that day to be good for yourself, for others, and for Heaven's sake. Aristotle observed that excellence is not an act but a habit. Loving service can be, as well.
June 2 Serve And Love TodayLife affords numerous clearly understood opportunities to serve Heaven and to love others! It makes sense to rise to meet those opportunities and doing so is enough to fill any life with meaning.
June 1 Don't Say Everything You ThinkLet's not challenge any value, theory, or belief when we are unable to understand the reasoning and perspective of the people who adhere to it. The only wise response in that case is to simply admit our ignorance and never again make the mistake of rejecting any opinion simply because it is contrary to views to which we already hold.
May 31 Practice Pure LoveAnticipate that your love for your spouse and others close to you will become more healthy each year. Offer to them the kind of love they deserve. It's simply the right way to live and the way of joy.