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A Snippet of Encouragement for Abundant Living
(based upon his book How To Put Your Whole Self In)
A Snippet of Encouragement for Abundant Living
(based upon his book How To Put Your Whole Self In)
June 26 Free Yourself!Genuine freedom of the spirit comes from an attitude of simplicity towards the material world and some degree of minimalism towards one's possessions.
June 25 Believe There's PurposeWhen we can't discern any meaning and purpose in the complex matrix of existence that we are caught up in, it's enough simply to know that an Ultimate Purpose can exist without our knowing what it is.
June 24 Don't Bother with DeathSomeday we will die. The actual experience in that other dimension will be more wonderful than the best day of our earthly existence. In the meantime, let us live joyfully one day at a time, including that final day. Why not?
June 23 Be TeachableBe willing at any time to reassess your worldview and your understanding of truth. People who are humble are easier to live with.
June 22 Love AnywaySome people will not understand, trust, or accept our love. After all, Jesus was crucified by people He Loved absolutely. We don't focus on results.
June 21 Keep Connected to HeavenI keep the telephone of my mind open to messages of peace, harmony, health, love, and abundance. Then, whenever Doubt, Anxiety, and Fear attempt to call me, they keep getting a busy signal and eventually add my number to their cosmic DO NOT CALL list.
June 20 Embrace LifeI no longer struggle with life but continually embrace it and am constantly dazzled by the way in which life keeps hugging back.
June 19 Live Above the MessUnpleasant experiences and even tragedies may shake me up but they no longer can pull me down. I've learned to be content whatever my circumstances. Really content!
June 18 Don't Be DefensiveAs part of my own coming to humility, I am trying never to be defensive about anything.
June 17 Focus on SpiritTrue Joy is an inside-out project, not determined by outward circumstances and often disconnected from them.
June 16 Don't CriticizeSharp criticism will never be effective in helping anyone become better or to do better because critical comments by others never helped us to improve.
June 15 Know What You Don't KnowBertrand Russell wrote: "A big problem in this world is that the idiots are convinced that they know everything and the intelligent people are full of doubts." He's probably right because I have never met a fool who entertained the slightest uncertainty about his/her opinions. More than once I've entertained such foolish certainties myself.
June 14 Pay Attention to the SilenceI only experience the full impact of the Divine Presence when I listen to the silence that fills the heavenly spaces and to what isn't being said but that I, nevertheless, come to realize and understand.
June 13 Wise UpAt times, we will grow anxious, depressed, or angry. However, there need be nothing dismaying about such a break if we simply regard the lapse itself as one of the events in life to learn from and then use the lesson to encourage wiser behaviors in the future.
June 12 Let It GoWhen someone has gone astray, if I am not able to intervene with a gentle and helpful rebuke then I try to remove the knowledge of the person's mis-behavior from my mind. The Bible says that God has put my sin behind His back, so that's where I intend to put it for others.
June 11 Practice WisdomOnly by practical application can knowledge be driven into our hearts and then converted into wisdom that will finally make us good for ourselves, for others, and for Heaven's sake.
June 10 Simply LoveLife becomes sweeter when we truly love the people around us! We can simply decide to never get uselessly upset. And not tell people off. And move ourselves out of inappropriate competitions. That kind of righteousness is simple. Aggression, competition, road rage, and trying to get the best of the people around us complicates relationships. Or destroys them.
June 9 Don't Push Away Joy With Negative FeelingsWhenever angry, disappointed, or petulant, you are permit negative energies to push away the joy, peace, and happiness that could otherwise have been filling your heart and mind.
June 8 Just Forgive And Let it GoSuccessful engagement with life is powered by the core energies that acts of forgiveness can supply, both as we receive pardon for the things we have done and, in turn, as we pardon ourselves and others. Everybody!
June 7 Stay on the PathBecome a pilgrim in the company of a Faithful Companion who knows the way ahead, leads you by the hand, and fills you with love for fellow-travelers who share the road with you.
June 6 Follow The Essential TruthLet's admit that our grasp on Truth is limited and we don't know very much. However, let's seek crystal clear truth about the attitudes and tasks required of us right now because that's enough truth!
June 5 Don't Be So SureThe older we get the less confidence we will have about our ability to reason things through to unquestionable assurance that we are absolutely right about anything.
June 4 Care for OthersEvery day I pray that I will be a blessing to each person I meet that day. The practice has transformed the quality of my life.
June 3 Reach Your Personal BestEvery day get out of bed with your mind filled with things you are going to do that day to be good for yourself, for others, and for Heaven's sake. Aristotle observed that excellence is not an act but a habit. Loving service can be, as well.
June 2 Serve And Love TodayLife affords numerous clearly understood opportunities to serve Heaven and to love others! It makes sense to rise to meet those opportunities and doing so is enough to fill any life with meaning.
June 1 Don't Say Everything You ThinkLet's not challenge any value, theory, or belief when we are unable to understand the reasoning and perspective of the people who adhere to it. The only wise response in that case is to simply admit our ignorance and never again make the mistake of rejecting any opinion simply because it is contrary to views to which we already hold.
May 31 Practice Pure LoveAnticipate that your love for your spouse and others close to you will become more healthy each year. Offer to them the kind of love they deserve. It's simply the right way to live and the way of joy.
May 30 Admit Your LimitationsI don't know much, but at least I now know that I can't prove much of anything to be absolutely true, which is a powerful reason to avoid arguments.
May 29 Love with an Indomitable LoveLove that springs from grace has an indomitable quality because people cannot escape our love. They are able to withdraw so that our love no longer affects them, but they are unable to do anything to lesson our regard for them or cause our commitment to them to cease or even to diminish.
May 28 Love Yourself HealthyPeople fall into illness when they feel that the sources of their love have been withdrawn: lovers have left them, parents have abused them, friends have betrayed them.... They feel that they are no longer being loved, but their real problem is that they have stopped loving. They can do something about that if only they will. I know, because I have done something about it.
May 27 Speak from Sincere MotivesWhen they realize the sincerity of my love for them, some people will listen thoughtfully to my most important conviction, which is the willingness and ability of The Master to bring good things out of bad the most encouraging thing I know.
May 26 Just LoveI’m at the point at which I can actually love people with my whole heart without the slightest urge to harshly judge or criticize them. I stumble, sometimes, especially when tempted to judge and criticize others for being judgmental and critical. But even partial victories open doorways to joy!
May 25 Think DeeperThey say that you can't believe everything you see, but I made a great leap forward when I finally learned that neither can I believe everything I think. I am continually fighting the temptation to believe something simply because it makes sense to me.
May 24 Realize That You Don't Know MuchAwareness of how much I don't understand turned out to be the most important lesson learned from my 12 years in higher education. The resulting humility provides an ultimately liberating basis for remaining continually dazzled by the awe and wonder of it all.
May 23 Forgive Without BoundariesForgiveness is a spiritual principle rather than a religious doctrine as important for atheists as it is for preachers.
May 22 Just ServeA passion for serving others adds a special quality to any action. With the good of others in view, perform any task with excellence.
May 21 Embrace Modern LivingThe world today is full of wonders that previous generations couldn't have imagined. And we haven't seen anything yet. My wish is to be continually amazed by all these discoveries and innovations. And I am!
May 20 Embrace Indomitable JoyCheerful resignation to every circumstance of life is a logical response to my confidence that my life and times are held in Hands that will never let me drop unless something wonderful could be gained from my fall. Even in that case, no other response makes sense except simply, "Thy will be done."
May 19 Control Your TemperI can’t recall a single time during the decades of my life when I lost my temper at someone, spoke to them in a hurtful fashion, and felt afterwards that I had accomplished anything good by my actions. So I never do that anymore. Never!
May 18 Be FlexibleFlexibility is a necessity not an option if we intend to thrive amidst the changes taking place all around us. No longer expect permanence in anything. Embrace change.
May 17 Plant RelationshipsJoy and happiness are fruit that grow in the spiritual soil of happy relationships beginning with the members of our nuclear family and extending to the people encountered in every part of life.
May 16 Choose HappinessYou are the only person who can make you happy. Because happiness is a choice. Since you’re as happy as you choose to be, you might as well choose to be really happy.
May 15 Continue Seeking the Source of All PeaceA divine place at the center of my being is a refuge to which I can flee and remain undisturbed no matter how fiercely the storms of life may blow a sanctuary in which I can shelter during conflicts and troubles.
May 14 Seek a Source of PeaceI possess a peace that "transcends all understanding." not because it involves some complicated insight but because it surpasses expectations and rational explanations.
May 13 Work at Being PleasantIt does no good for family members or associates to see me out-of-sorts and to listen to my bad-tempered remarks. My goal is to reduce these to zero. Why wouldn't I try to do so? (It's tough sometimes but the war is worth the struggle!)
May 12 Keep Your CoolA commitment to be a positive influence for everyone we meet, eliminates the possibility of ever engaging in harsh criticism, scorn, or any show of anger.
May 11 Live Above CircumstanceMy beliefs, attitudes, and actions combine to exert far greater influence upon the direction in which my life goes than any circumstance, coincidence, or "luck," whether good or bad.
May 10 Set Your SailsI am not the captain of my soul. But God is sending favorable winds that are blowing my little ship towards an amazing Final Destination.
May 9 Embrace EverythingGreat blessings often result from terrible misfortunes! Embrace everything as coming from the hand of a benevolent Heavenly Power. Why not?
May 8 Give FreelySelfish people fail to realize the principle that givers are more blessed through acts of giving than recipients are through acts of receiving. A greedy person is a sad individual. And a sorry one.
May 7 Maintain a Grateful HeartEmpower the blessings in your life by deliberately and continually acknowledging their Heavenly Source. Life moves upwards fueled by the energies generated by a grateful heart.
May 6 Don't Even AskI think Heaven never responds to the question, "Why me?" about any circumstance because the real answer, bound up in the rejoinder question, "Why not me?" is too obvious for God to bother with. Anne Frank died in a concentration camp. Job lost his family, home, and health. Jesus died on the cross. How stupid and arrogant would it be to think that I'm entitled to any kind of Get Out Of Jail Free card?
May 5 Never Be DefensiveWhen people become angry and shout at you, their anger certainly represents fear or insecurity rather than actual malice. A positive attitude will usually be rewarded by eventual (and sometimes dramatic) restoration of friendly or at least cordial relationships.
May 4 Unleash Expectation's PowerImagine that the people surrounding you are extraordinary human beings; anticipate that each of them will be excellent. Unleash the power of positive expectations on everyone. (Why not?)
May 3 A Safe PlaceI am grateful for a heavenly shelter that affords me protection from whatever spiritual and emotional turmoil might threaten my wellbeing a refuge to which I fly when the storms of life threaten to throw me down. The refuge is always there; I am always safe.
May 2 Reach For The Best Out Of EverybodyWe most effectively reach our potential for goodness and self-worth by simply treating each other as valuable human beings; we get the best out of people by going to what is best in them.
May 1 Make Others ShineOne of the greatest rewards can be the pleasure of watching others smile and shine in response to our own engagement with life, and with Heaven, and with them.
April 30 Just LaughAppropriate humor is a lubricant to grease the wheels of human relationships, to repair hurt feelings, and to help cope with grief.
April 29 Ignore LabelsNo matter how annoyingly opinionated a particular individual may be, every person I meet whether liberal or conservative, homophobe or homosexual, bigot or embracing, atheist or religious is infinitely more precious than whatever label he/she may bear. No principle is more powerful than this in transforming relationships.
April 28 Don't WorryAn important part of my enjoyment of life is a determination never to respond to worries or fears. No amount of wealth could make me happier; no circumstance could extinguish my joy.
April 27 Be Anxious About NothingNo matter how bad any situation is I can either do something about it or I can't do anything about it. In either case, worrying is useless. I've finished with worry; I'm done with it forever.
April 26 Find Reasons to LoveGenuine love means coming to appreciate people because of who they are and not in spite of who they are. The most obvious course of action for me is to treat people excellently, which will perhaps encourage them to treat others, including myself, in the same way.
April 25 Be Excellent Towards EveryoneEveryone has amazing strengths and dismaying weaknesses. If my attitude is one of moral excellence, when I learn about the failures and successes of others, my love for them will expand to embrace both their shortfalls and victories.
April 24 Love What IsThe greater our knowledge of other people, the more about them we find to love. That is true as long as our love has an unconditional quality that guarantees our never turning away no matter what unsightly behaviors or character traits our expanding knowledge might uncover about a person. After all, the more issues they have, the more they need our love. It isn't about us. It's never about us!
April 23 Be Safe For OthersIt's only natural to love in the same way that we feel ourselves to be loved. If Heaven accepts us as we are then I would be both hypocritical and disingenuous to reject a single person. Let's lose the ability to be critical about anybody.
April 22 Be Safe For OthersI now share at least one characteristic with people like Mother Theresa and Jesus Christ: We are safe. You can tell us anything. We might cry with you but will never shame you nor treat you with scorn or contempt. (That probably about covers my shared characteristics with Mother Theresa and Jesus Christ.)
April 21 Embrace the DysfunctionsMy attitude is just the opposite of a quote I once read: "I hate mankind, for I think myself one of the best of them, and I know how bad I am." Against that stands the magnificent observation by the writer, Anne Lamott: "Jesus' heart was not hardened against crazy people, or we would all be doomed. He was not embarrassed by craziness. He just said, 'Yeah, well, me too,' then He took care of you anyway."
April 20 Go With OkayI don't know why I can't take more control over my passions. Sometimes I think I am a little crazy. However, most of us feel that way at some level, if we will just admit it. Nevertheless, I am finally at the most healthy of all ego states, characterized by I AM NOT OKAY; YOU'RE NOT OKAY; BUT THAT'S OKAY.
April 19 Make Intention Your StandardA sense of liberation comes about through disassociating my sense of self-worth from standards of behavior. I am a flawed person but have come to accept my wrinkles and warts both physical and spiritual because Heaven accepts me that way. This is the key to accepting everyone else as worthy and even lovable. It is also the key to actual self-improvement.
April 18 Be Excellent to OthersThe iconic line from the movie Bill and Ted's Excellent Adventure, "Be excellent to one another," is a powerful ethical principle. Many of us religious people, including some preachers, would be better human beings if we merely lived our lives according to Bill and Ted's simple advice.
April 17 Forgive Everyone Beginning With Yourself"Forgiven people forgive people," they say. I've been forgiven for enough things myself over the years (and last week) that forgiving others now requires no effort at all.
April 16 Experience Forgiveness in Both DirectionsI can't control whether or not people will forgive me but am in absolute control over whether or not I forgive them. When Heaven's forgiveness is all I can have, then that's all the forgiveness I need. On the other hand, I freely forgive others even if they don't ask for it because I need to free myself from any trace of anger or resentment.
April 15 Focus On NowFocusing on the present relieves us of the limitations that fear would otherwise impose upon our actions and choices. Joyful engagement with life at the present moment is the best preparation for life. Timidity is no virtue.
April 14 Embrace EveryoneSeek no longer to react out of your own bias to anyone with contrary views, or respond from any personal opinions towards any gay person. Do not permit your religious convictions to stand between yourself and any devout Christian, Roman Catholic, Mormon, Jew, Muslim, or atheist. Impose the Golden Rule of God's love on your relationships rather than bashing others with the hammer of your personal opinions and convictions.
April 13 Show Respect to EveryoneRegard no one with disdain. Any differences of opinion, conviction, or belief that I might have with others will should not influence my respect and even affection for them in the slightest way. (The Golden Rule thing again, because hat's how I want to be treated by others.)
April 12 Practice Being YourselfAs a matter of principle, refuse to be greatly moved by others' opinions of you and maintain Kipling's ideal that "all men count" with you, "but none too much." This kind of independence is difficult to maintain, but the sense of liberation is worth any amount of struggle! It is an essential quality for healthy relationships.
April 11 Maintain an Agreeable SpiritI cannot experience genuine peace until I am able to permit people around me to be wrong without being bent out of shape by what I perceive as their error. This is not always easy and I sometimes find it impossible. (It's a battle, but one that I need to win.)
April 10 End the Day RightEvery night when you close your eyes, pause to rejoice for whatever challenges, people, and events brought positive energies into your life. Allow negative feelings (and people) to slide by without giving them a moment's notice.
April 9 Open Your MouthIn the Old Testament, God promised His people, "Open your mouth wide and I will fill it." I do that on a regular basis, these days, and in return God fills my life with good things.
I'm doing it right now! He's doing it right now!
April 8 Light Up Your WorldNo purpose for living can bring us into healthy relationships with others without brightening our own world. Only by being good for others can I, in any way, become good for myself or good for Heaven's sake.
April 7 Deny Your FearsA person who is genuinely strong in his spirit can use that strength to "turn the other cheek." In that case, doing so is a noble gesture. A godly act even! But people who are fearful and timid shouldn't follow that instruction. At least in some contexts they should face up to their fears and pop the schoolyard bully right in the nose. There are worse things than getting beat up. I know.
April 6 Have the Courage to Be WrongFocusing on the present and eliminating fears or even avoiding undue expectations about the future frees us to make mistakes. "While one person hesitates because he feels inferior," someone said, "the other is busy making mistakes and becoming superior." If that's true, then I'm making enough mistakes these days to eventually ensure some kind of amazing superiority. (I hope my wife finds out soon.)
April 5 Forgive EverythingMore important than finding forgiveness is to forgive others. Forgive everybody and forgive everything because resentment inevitably kills joy; bitterness always trumps happiness. I will no longer permit that to happen.
April 4 Stop Begging; Simply ReceiveA friend suggested that perhaps the only prayer I need offer for myself is one of repentance because when restored, we're at the center of God's will and in a position to receive the gifts needed in order to become happy and productive without begging for them.
April 3 Push Away Hurt and HarmContinually putting behind us such dark things as hurt feelings, broken relationships, and lost opportunities is essential to the ongoing sense of renewal that we should demand from life.
April 2 Just DanceThe rhythms of life the daily, seasonal, yearly, and decade-long cadences provide a continual source of fuel for the energies of joy. Life can become a rock concert; you can get up on your feet and begin dancing!
April 1 Prepare for DeathOur entire life is a cycle, like a single day. The nighttime of death is surely coming, so the best plan to check out, "Like one who wraps the drapery of his couch about him, and lies down to pleasant dreams," as Bryant advised. Until then, put your whole self into living each day. Today, for sure!
March 31 Loving RaeI have learned to fall in love with my wife repeatedly. My love for this wonderful person is constant and unvarying. She is what I want. She is what I need.
Happy birthday, Dear Rae!
March 30 Just DanceOnly by being good for others and for Heaven's sake can we really be good for ourselves and dance down joyful paths.
March 29 Die RightLive in such a way that when you die good people might mourn by your casket and imagine the world is a better place because you were there.
March 28 Allow Only GoodThe best way to succeed is to discover what you love and use it to serve others while allowing the energies of Heaven to lead you. That's the energy I'm allowing! It's all good; I don't allow bad!
March 27 Listen to EveryoneEven those who bore us are sending messages beneath their chatter to which we should listen. They deserve our paying attention to the things they might not be saying.
March 26 Embrace PurposeEmbracing your purpose for living brings us to a happy place indeed where we doing something good for ourselves, good for others, and good for Heaven's sake.
March 25 Walk OnYou wouldn't have the insights or wisdom that you possess if your life had followed a different route at any point. Each road taken was more important than any destination; the journey was never leading towards life but was life itself. Discouragement and disappointment are always nonsense, so you might as well be happy.
March 24 Make Things BetterFind your gifts for making things better and making the people around you happier, and then use those gifts with all your heart and strength.
March 23 Be Quick with HugsHugging is healthy, but only people with a spirit of genuine simplicity and affection toward others can give a really great hug. Figure it out.
March 22 Be TrustworthyIn his book The Speed of Trust Stephen Covey maintained that a person could only be trusted if the one doing the trusting was confident that the person was both honest and capable. We probably all agree with Martin Luther when he said that he would "rather be ruled by a wise Turk than to be ruled over by a foolish Christian." We could add, "or by a dishonest one."
March 21 Shut UpLearn to just shut up as soon as you realize that your speech isn't being helpful to anyone.
March 20 Be GratefulBe grateful for the cosmic Web of Heavenly energies and tremendous network of people that can raise you to a state of joy and happy anticipation.
March 19 Listen UpOne of the most effective ways of involving myself completely in the lives of other people is by listening carefully to them whenever they are speaking to me. I can do that. I will do that!
March 18 Enjoy the GiftEach day is a gift; Never permit pains, hurdles, and handicaps or any circumstance to mar the gift by poisoning your attitudes and intentions.
March 17 Don't ComplainThe poet Maya Angelou's history of sexual childhood abuse, guilt, and five years as a mute read like something out of a Stephen King novel. Nevertheless, she was able to write, "If you don't like something, change it. If you can't change it, change your attitude. Don't complain." I'm trying to do that every day. Every moment.
March 16 Do GoodI have the seeds of fear, anger and arrogance within me, but I have learned not to water those seeds and instead to nourish constructive qualities such as compassion, understanding, and kindness. Positive relationships with the people around me result from choices I make every day.
March 15 Fill 'er UpI am grateful for the power every day to open a heavenly faucet and fill myself full of grace. I understand the words of James Weldon Johnson's old prayer about coming "like empty pitchers to a full fountain." That's the way I come! That's the kind of fountain I keep coming to!
March 14 Enjoy YourselfJoy-filled exuberance is the condition I come to by receiving the power that follows frank confrontation with the issues of the past and then simply letting go dropping the dreadful load at the Master's feet.
March 13 Don't GossipI am determined to remove feelings of superiority and cruelty that make it possible to enjoy gossiping about others. Gossip diminishes the person I am talking about. I don't like people doing that to me so why would I ever wish to do that to anybody?
March 12 Be DiligentMy greatest challenge is to become sufficiently committed to achieving my goals that my passion for doing so drives me past the temptation to waste time on things that do not move me forward. But it's a constant battle!
March 11 Let GoJoyful exuberance is my natural condition whenever I cease dwelling upon past negative experiences. Deliverance comes from merely receiving the grace that follows frank confrontation with a problem and then simply letting it go.
March 10 Stay CoolSerenity comes from eliminating any need to demonstrate to other people that we am right about anything. We will be truly joyful when we learn with great good cheer to let other people be wrong even dead wrong!
March 9 Receive HelpMoral integrity requires more than mere determination. Thankfully, there is more. My soul feels nourished each day by heavenly food and my feet again planted in a blessed place! I'm not done yet; I'm improving.
March 8 Disagree AgreeablySome Christians argue as though the existence of God depends upon their being able successfully to defend His existence. Some atheists, on the other hand, argue as though God will suddenly appear unless they are able to successfully defend His non-existence. I could argue against both of these positions but while doing so I would ensure that the Christian or atheist remained confident of my love. Or else I would change the subject.
March 7 Become BetterThe demands of moral and ethical living require that every day you strive with consistency to be the best person you can be that day. By living on this elevated level over a sufficient number of days, you will lay the basis for a successful life and exhibit the characteristics for which Heaven gives smiling approval.
March 6 Be GenuineAs far as possible, bless others by humbly acknowledging the limits of your understanding and never pretending to knowledge and wisdom you don't actually possess.
March 5 Be Good; Do GoodEven more than being able to do good, I need to be good for the people around me. I must become the worker that my partner needs, the father that my children need, the husband that my wife needs, and the man that I myself need me to be.
March 4 Make a DifferenceThe reciprocating movements between loving yourself and loving others is the basis for a good life. Whenever opportunity comes knocking, open the door and welcome with open arms whatever prospect is waiting glad to give yourself and others the gift of living well.
March 3 Love Yourself; Love EveryoneIf I actually love others as I love myself, as the Bible instructs, then I will treat you the same way that I tend to treat myself. I will view your actions in the most favorable possible light and leap to your defense every time I am given the opportunity to do so. I might not always like you, however, just as I do not always like myself.
March 2 Elevate PeopleLife offers its best gifts to me when I am prepared to meet it armed with right attitudes and appropriate behaviors. I will regard the people around me as being fundamentally good and try to view any problem as a challenge that might lead to some positive outcome or will at least teach me patience.
March 1 Show Love to the UnlovelyMy goal is to put my whole self into the processes of living and to be gracious towards people who commit unlovely or even harmful acts. I freely admit that I am myself one of the difficult people I have to get along with. Don Huntington has caused me more problems than all the other people in the world combined.
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