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Three writings by Dr. Don: Reflections Daily Snippets How to Get Along With Anybody
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A Snippet of Encouragement for Abundant Living
(based upon his book How To Put Your Whole Self In)
A Snippet of Encouragement for Abundant Living
(based upon his book How To Put Your Whole Self In)
December 1 Don't Overlook BlessingsThe gifts of God will pass without us noticing them until we finally recognize them as they continually flow around us.
November 30 Learn the Rhythms of GraceThe Head Instructor is trying gently to plant these rhythms in our heart. Like a parent with a young child, He takes delight in our most faltering attempts to join the Cosmic Dance.
November 29 Tune Your Heart to Hear the MusicLearn to shut out the noise that interferes with your ability to hear the Music of the Spheres and prevents you from continually enjoying the dance of life.
November 28 Dance in the RainLife is a performing arts festival and in the midst of life's storms I am learning to dance in the rain.
November 27 Master Your LessonsThe hours of each day constitute a lecture hall or a classroom in which Heaven is trying to teach lessons about authentic living and preparing the willing learner for eternity. Everything that happens in the sometimes-rough schoolhouse of life becomes a learning experience and an occasion of praise for any receptive heart.
November 26 Learn to Apply Gentleness and Firmness CorrectlySaint Teresa of Avila advised us to "Be gentle to all and stern with yourself." Only by following her admonition can we truely be good for ourselves and good for others. In fact, there is no other way to do so.
November 25 Repair Your VisionWhen we learn to look at the world with new eyes are able to embrace some of the opportunities for service and growth that we now see scattered about us.
November 24 Learn to Really SeeThe truth about the nature of life and my purpose in the world has been dawning upon me gradually for a number of years, and I am still dazzled by it as though I started out blind and have only gradually been gaining my eyesight.
November 23 Give Yourself Away In Small ThingsBringing companionship and comfort to a lonely child or encouraging a smile from an unhappy person will have a good effect on our wellbeing because sharing positive energies with others is the best part of the Upward Path that we are walking.
November 22 Take Appropriate ChargeWe are able to throw ourselves into life by understanding that we alone are responsible for our own success or failure. At any particular moment we are creating our reality through the attitudes we maintain and the choices we make.
November 21 Embrace HopefulnessWe lift our spirits by confidence that we are held by strong arms, guided by a brilliant light, and swept along a shining river. We may be assured that the arms are eternal, the light is shining from Heaven, and the river's mouth is Eternity.
November 20 Choose Your Destiny WiselyDestiny is a matter of choice rather than chance. By becoming aware of our power we master circumstances rather than being victimized by them.
November 19 Exhibit Constant Love and AppreciationPeople are more hungry for love than for bread, so the best thing we can do is to display sincere love and appreciation whenever it is possible to do so. Why shouldn't we, when it is possible to do so much good with so little effort?
November 18 Honor EveryoneOur effects upon the world will be much more positive when we approach the worst of people as though they were honorable, worthy human beings! They might eventually come to trust us enough to be willing to receive suggestions for changing their attitudes and behaviors.
November 17 Encourage EveryoneNegative words bring out the worst in the people we criticize. We encourage good in others by going to what is good in them.
November 16 Rise Above Your CircumstancesWe may plant our feet upon a mighty Rock that will give us traction for moving forward in life plus leverage for assisting others to move towards their own goals. We will be working less and accomplishing more.
November 15 Rise Above Your CircumstancesDysfunctional people and negative circumstances will have little impact on us if we will simply develop a habit of being kind towards people who are rude, regularly calm when conditions about us are stormy, and peaceable in the face of confrontation.
November 14 Live in CourageDo not fill your mind with dark thoughts about death and disease, but learn to face with cheerful acceptance the reality of your own mortality and the mortality of those you love.
November 13 Don't Fear DeathPerhaps the approach of my final hour will trouble my mind and spirit because I was certainly shocked a few years ago when diagnosed with cancer. I am prepared to have some difficulty making the Final Transition, but even though I may tremble on the Rock, I'm standing on a Rock that never trembles.
November 12 Keep GoingA successful attitude rises above the vagaries of emotions.
November 11 Turn on the LightsWe can fill our lives with light and happiness by doing nothing more than waking ourselves to the beauty of the world that surrounds us and the amazing human beings with whom we will have contact!
November 10 Let Them Be Wrong InThe more wisdom we acquire the more willing we will be to not correct people even when we know how wrong they are.
November 9 Do Small ThingsThe smallest graceful action can sometimes open the fountains of grace. A hug for a grieving person; a warm smile for a harassed woman at a grocery store checkout counter; a simple touch on the arm for a worried parent; a morning cup of coffee for someone you love.... These minor acts generate currents of happiness that will flow through your world and your life.
November 8 Stop Hurtful SpeechPeople have damaged us with their words. Furthermore, we have damaged others with our words, harming them far beyond the ability of any healing powers we possess to undo the wrongs we have done. Let us be careful with what comes out of our mouths.
November 7 Begin Each Day on the Right FootBegin every morning with a prayer, "Lord, keep your arm over my shoulder and your hand over my mouth."
November 6 Secure a Good DeathKWe buy a good death with the price of a good life.
November 5 Earn Self-RespectThe practice of giving myself into the lives of others is making me a successful human being. The guy in the mirror is someone whose company I at last can enjoy.
November 4 Grow RicherWe enriched ourselves by putting our whole selves into the task of helping others in any way we can. Jesus said, "Listen carefully to what I am saying and be wary of the shrewd advice that tells you how to get ahead in the world on your own. Giving, not getting, is the way. Generosity begets generosity. Stinginess impoverishes." (Message Translation)
November 3 Put Your Whole Self InFully engaging in your relationships with the people around you will generate positive energies that will strengthen them while filling you own spirit with the joy that only comes through acts of service freely given.
November 2 Hold Opinions With a Loose GripSince most opinions aren't based upon good information, they are merely expressions of the people's particular biases, so try to hang on to your opinions with a loose grip. It's a difficult challenge, but with practice you can get better at it.
November 1 Change the FutureEven though no amount of mercy can change the past, the most minor act of forgiveness will bless me in the present and enlarge my future.
October 31 Let it BeStop praying fervently that God will protect you from disease, poverty, or any circumstance but allow His Presence to help you to completely embrace life however it comes. You'll find such steady composure to be more gratifying than health and more satisfying than wealth.
October 30 Look for the GoodWhen I contracted cancer I became aware of previously unsuspected resources of grace and developed increased capacity to reach out to others in meaningful ways. I've demonstrated the truth through countless harsh circumstances the unfailing reality that "good things come out of bad things."
October 29 Adjust Your AttitudeAttitude is more powerful than any circumstance. Although she was blind and deaf, Helen Keller thoroughly enjoyed her life. Billy Graham maintains a smile on his face while dying of Parkinson's Disease. Jesus died "for the joy set before Him."
October 28 Live for Heaven's SakeHeaven is holding out happiness and joy without a price tag to everyone who will reach out and take. Refuse to be distracted by material issues and thus fail to receive these greater gifts.
October 27 Accept EverythingUncomfortable and even tragic things that come into my life will have a positive effect when faced with the courage that comes naturally from a willingness to embrace the world as it is and to accept events and circumstances as from the hand of God.
October 26 Laugh Your Way Into LoveLaughter is one of the great bonds that keep my wife, Rae, and me in close relationship with each other. The warm sunshine of appropriate humor has the power to melt the icy grip of depression, anxiety, anger, and hurt feelings.
October 25 Let it BeLiving will require less effort than if you quit trying so hard anymore and learn just to "let it be." The windows of Heaven will open and you will be drenched in the sunlight that pours through them every day. Give up responsibility for outcomes.
October 24 Do No HarmA big part of success in creating and maintaining healthy relationships is learning to habitually avoid attitudes and behaviors that serve to bring us down and diminish the happiness of the people around us.
October 23 Be Constantly RechargingThe processes of our lives run down towards stasis and doldrums if not continually renewed by a source of energy from outside the system of our individual lives. We need each other! We need the grace of Heaven!
October 22 Hope AlwaysThe virtues of patience and perseverance operate most strongly in the absence of positive circumstances or feelings. Hope is the quality that carries me through the darkness towards a light that I believe to be at the end of every tunnel even when I am unable to see even a glimmer of it. Hope is a moral attribute; it is a character trait.
October 21 Hold on to Truth with a Humble GraspI once heard a missionary say to a congregation that the reason the world looks down on us is because we always act like we have the truth. There was a moment's silence and then he said, "Well, we do have the truth, don't we?" Then he said, "But the problem is that we act like it is our truth."
October 20 Under No CircumstanceA pastor once asked me how I was doing. I responded by saying, "Pretty good, under the circumstance." "Well, what are you doing under the circumstance?" he asked.
Let's stay out from "under the circumstance."
October 19 Stay Plugged in to The SourceA divine Presence is flowing like a fountain through my spirit like refreshing water to overflow any parched conditions in my mind and spirit. The cares and hammerings of life lose their ability to affect me very much as long as I remain connected to that internal source of renewal and healing.
October 18 Love as a Deliberate ActionI have been happily married for nearly five decades and a big part of the success of my marriage is telling my wife that I love her as soon as she gets out of bed in the morning no matter how I feel. When I married her, I said that I would love her until death parted us, and that was a promise not a prediction. As a result, I nearly always "feel" the love, but that's not the point.
October 17 Enjoy the TripWe are at our best when we are aware of a heavenly wind that is blowing us through life and that in some wonderful way we are just along for the ride. How eagerly do I look forward to the destination towards which the winds of the Spirit are carrying me!
October 16 Expect Love to WorkI have learned that if I deliberately place myself in the service of co-workers, family members, and friends, they do not rush at me to take too much advantage of my kindness. I expect people to be kind and not impose upon me in some inappropriate fashion. Therefore, they don't!
October 15 Practice Unconditional LovePeople tend to resist showing unconditional and unselfish generosity for fear that others will take advantage of them. However, if I love the people around me as God said I should love them, then I want them to take advantage of me. Positively motivated sacrifice opens windows through which joy is able to flood my soul.
October 14 Stay CalmAngry ringing denouncements always pull down our own spirit and exert a negative effect upon the people around us. Let's cease expressing angry disapproval about anything and strive to have a warming gentle influence on others and never again an inflammatory one.
October 13 Forgive Everybody for EverythingForgive people for their offenses even when they don't deserve forgiveness (usually they do), but simply because a forgiving spirit is a necessary ingredient in any recipe for a happy and joyful life.
October 12 Accept Your Reward for Being GenerousPeople are usually willing to be kind towards someone who has done some good service for them. But the magnificent reality is that acts of service have their own reward; generosity generates a sometimes-irresistible reciprocating force.
October 11 Don't Give in to AngerThe Bible says, "Hatred stirs up dissension, but love covers over all wrongs." Buddha agrees about anger's bad effects. "Never in this world can hatred be stilled by hatred." He then added, "It will be stilled only by non-hatred this is the law Eternal." A spirit of criticism and a spirit of serenity, like oil and water, will never mix. Non-hatred is a good first step on the pathway to unconditional love.
October 10 Got it!The Bible accurately observes that "...we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him." I am convinced that these heavenly "works" are taking place; new realities dazzle me every day. They surround me. Everything is a miracle!
October 9 Let it BeWe are held by powerful hands and might as well be ready for whatever is going to happen in this world. After all, cancer and the death of loved ones may bring anguish to our hearts, but those dark experiences provide energy for climbing to previously unreachable levels of wisdom and understanding.
October 8 Accept LimitsWe have little power over the things that happen to us and even less over the outcomes of those events. Accepting limitations creates an important protection against arrogance and provides a sure basis for peaceful acceptance of what we can't change.
October 7 It's All GoodPersonal failure is the soil in which humility can grow strong. Pain and suffering are the experiences that develop a sense of compassion and sensitivity. Good health acquires a deeper significance following a life-threatening illness. Belief in heaven has a more profound dimension when the believer's mother is there. It's all good!
October 6 Keep ClimbingI only discover the power of love when I am in a situation that could make me hate, only learn to pardon by being injured, real faith when faced with great doubt, real hope in the face of despair, real light in the face of darkness, ultimate joy only after sadness, and real understanding after great confusion. The path to wisdom and godliness is always uphill.
October 5 It is Never About UsOnly as we perform a deed of service with absolutely no regard for what the recipient will think of us as the doers, are we finally free to do them good as an act of genuine love.
October 4 Be YourselfCarefully consider other people's opinions of you but refuse to let yourself be defined by them.
October 3 Speak Truth SoftlyShouting at people is never an effective communication method. I've learned to gently speak the truth to others with the reduced volume that God uses these days when He quietly speaks truth to me.
October 2 Turn on VoicesCreate within yourself a chorus of voices supplying positive affirmations that will build up your spirit and encourage you to engage in those pursuits that positively impact your own life and the lives of those around you.
October 1 Grow UpBecome one of the mature human beings who fully engage in the processes of life and are no longer forced to live according to the debilitating "scripts" and depressing messages that we all have received since childhood.
September 30 Be Content with Not KnowingOs Guinness truthfully said, "We don't always know why, but we know why we trust God who knows why." This assurance enables us to embrace the miraculously and often astonishing blessings that lie on the other side of any pain and loss.
September 29 Go With the Plan"Things don't just happen they're planned." I have witnessed on countless occasions how events in my life that seemed negative or even tragic lead to wonderful outcomes. On many occasions, I came to realize that a negative event was necessary for the wonderful outcome to occur.
September 28 Expect MiraclesPeople who imagine themselves to be immersed in an ongoing series of miraculous events are able to insert themselves into their lives with greater enthusiasm than those who live as though the circumstances of their lives were meaningless, chaotic, or even malicious.
September 27 EngageEngagement in life becomes effortless when we regard life as a matrix of miracles expressed through family members, friends, and the people with whom we worship and work. Disengaging, in that case, would require effort.
September 26 Set Your Spirit FreeWe can live in emotional freedom. For example, every year for the last couple of decades I have been able to honestly say, "I have never been more fulfilled or more joyful than during this past year." It hardly mattered that I got cancer in one of those years, had a massive pulminary embolism in another, and for three years during that time I had no steady source of income.
September 25 Embrace Indomitable PeaceIndomitable joy and serenity are reserved for those who maintain a capacity for wonder, a feeling of humble uncertainty, and a fresh sense of always getting started about the real business of life. After all, Jesus declared that entrance into His Peaceable Kingdom is reserved for people who become like children.
September 24 Enjoy Two-Minute VacationsWe can renew mind and spirit by taking "two-minute vacations" during which we might experience a fresh sense of wonder or even elation at some otherwise unnoticed item in our environment, mind, or memory.
September 23 Keep Moving UpwardsUnforced rhythms of both work and repose can continually tend in an upward spiral in the direction of joy and harmony and never downward towards confusion and sorrow.
September 22 Stay Really AliveA simple change of viewpoint is sufficient to convert a tiresome duty into an interesting opportunity. Grace helps to conform our actual experience to Gandhi's principle that we be "vibrantly alive in repose" and "still in the midst of activity."
September 21 Engage Others with JoyRemaining engaged with life and with other people at a continually joyful level will diminish our inclinations to grow panicky or upset when things go wrong. We can sometimes keep our head when those about us are losing theirs, as Kipling advised.
September 16 Fully and completely engaging in life provides effective protection against the forces of monotony and world-weariness. As we become engaged in living we find the cycles of life going on about us to be increasingly more interesting; people become endlessly fascinating. We eventually won't remember the last time we were bored.
September 19 Have FunWe engage wholeheartedly in life by indulging deeply in appropriate pleasures. Such disciplines as goodness, self-control, and gentleness set free our capacities to enjoy life to the full.
September 16 Don't Stop! Keep Moving!Cumulative energy can result when insignificant individual events are repeated a sufficient number of times. A single step is of no consequence. A hundred steps might take you to the corner of the street. A hundred thousand steps will take you across a town. A million steps will carry you to the other side of the planet. As Conrad Hilton noted: "Successful men keep moving."
September 16 Joy-filled relationships with spouse, children, friends, fellow-workers, members of our religious community, and extended family all result from "a great wind blowing us across the heavens," to paraphrase the words of a Native American Poet.
September 16 Lasting happiness never comes as a reward for anything we have done. It only comes from my putting ourselves into the position of receiving what the Universe, after all, offers as a gift.
September 15 Ignore Things You Can't FixFretting about whether we are being shown the respect we deserve, or whether we are coming down with something, or whether politicians are carrying out their duties.... Let's release these negative and pointless concerns.
September 14 Be Happy with Your LifeThe fact is, if you can't be happy without money and fame, then you would be unhappy with them, as well.
September 13 Resist IgnoranceBecoming wise involves resisting the comforts of deliberate ignorance.
September 12 Sow For a Happy HarvestBy planting seeds of loving service we renew connections with people around us and prepare for harvests of joy.
September 11 Blow Away the Bad StuffPermit the winds of grace to blow away both unforgiving attitudes and unforgiven feelings because they are powerfully and indivisibly connected with each other and with your own health and spiritual wellbeing.
September 10 Embrace the Modern WorldAnyone born at any previous time in history would regard modern civilization as providing a heavenly plane of existence. However, if my life is untouched by grace, I will be miserable even if I live in a time and place offering aspirin, the World Wide Web, and flush toilets.
September 9 Release with Mind & HeartTerrible things are going on in this world. Some day I will die probably die hard. However, no possibility or circumstance has the power to overthrow my continual joy and even delight.
September 8 Make Happiness Your GoalSix weeks before he died, a reporter asked Elvis Presley, "Elvis, when you first started playing music, you said you wanted to be rich, famous and happy.
"Are you happy?"
"I am lonely as hell" he replied.
I am sure in his more reflective moments Elvis would have admitted that of the three goals, he really had missed the most important one.
September 7 Ignore Negative CircumstancesYou can maintain peacefulness, or at least recover it, when your attitudes of peace and joy no longer depend for their existence upon external conditions or circumstances.
September 6 Just ServeBe a servant to the people around you and don't try to straighten out their opinions regarding things they aren't asking your advice about. After all, when is the last time you were able to change anybody's mind about anything?
September 5 Be a Cheerful SurvivorThe happiest people are not those who have no problems but are those cheerful survivors who have overcome difficulties and even tragedies. "Circumstances are the rulers of the weak; they are but the instruments of the wise." (Samuel Lover)
September 4 Find Peace Through ServiceServing others ennobles life and empowers us to put away fretfulness and worry.
September 3 Fix Your AttitudeI've come to the magnificent surmise that genuine quality of life depends upon attitude and never upon circumstance.
September 2 Enlarge Yourself Through KnowledgeMy opinion about Darwin changed completely when I finally read Origin of Species. My opinions about homosexuals completely when I actually became friends with some gay people. My attitude towards atheists changed when I actually got to know some atheists on a personal level. My attitude towards Mormons.... (I could go on-and-on).
September 1 Question YourselfCritical thinking opens mind and heart to good things, because we grow and change as we engage with ideas that differ from our opinions and preconceptions.
August 31 Just Do What You ShouldYou will never feel guilt about the past nor anxiety about the future as long as you simply do in the present the things that Heaven directs your hands to do. Do that today! Now!
August 30 Don't Worry. (No, Really! Just Don't)Worry robs us of the joy and the sense of accomplishment that are rightfully ours. Worry never fixes anything. Let's refuse to go there. Ever!
August 29 Be a CarrierI have come to believe that the grace of Heaven is a divine infection. It's an STD, a socially transmitted disease that we catch from each other.
August 28 Be At PeaceThe contemporary admonition to "just deal with it!" is fundamentally wise. Learn simply to take responsibility for your emotional wellbeing and to put dark things away from your mind and spirit forever.
August 27 Be BlessedHeaven offers boundless resources for blessing is through a Divine Presence and especially through the dynamic people that overflow our lives every day.
August 26 Live FreeLet us not hedge our lives about with worthless passions and costly but useless possessions wasting every day in hollow attempts to pay the price for Protection and Freedom that the Universe actually offers to us without cost.
August 25 Be At PeaceOne of the great things about putting my whole self into life is that I can't remember the last time I had any feelings of desperation about anything.
August 24 Grab the PowerDynamic heavenly energies surrounding us on all sides like a cloud are far more powerful than the dark forces that threaten to drain us of our joy and to bring us down.
August 23 Prepare for the Big SleepTreat the final rest when it comes as a blessed sleep, like the one that marks the conclusion of each 24-hour period. With all temporal rhythms and earthly cadences at an end, anticipate the experience to be the sunrise of an Eternal Day.
August 22 Be DazzledI am continually amazed by the people I meet every day; I come to love every one of them from my heart. Why shouldn't I do so? It's a great way to live!
August 21 Energize YourselfAn unfailing source of energy is available to empower us for growth and renewal of our spirit. The great thing we can come to understand is that we are awash in a sea of grace.
August 20 Have FaithFaith in the ultimately benevolent character of the universe delivers us from worry. Fretfulness would then reveal a fundamental hypocrisy. Worry becomes impossible without doubt.
August 19 Only BelieveYou won't spend another minute being anxious if you really do believe that the hand of a benevolent Master is shaping the parts of your life making things work out for the best no matter how momentarily terrible current realities may seem.
August 18 Don't Bother Being DefensiveSince defensive behavior is always harmful, stop being defensive. It takes two people to have a fight; make up your mind never to be the second person.
August 17 Get In TuneThe brief melody and lyrics of any life comprise no solo composition but are part of a vast choral production, a celestial oratorio directed by a Cosmic Composer.
August 16 Find HappinessHappiness is where we find it. The wonders of nature and of the beautiful people who surround us can overflow life and fill our days with pleasure and joy.
August 15 Look Inside for the JoyThirteen-year-old Anne Frank was able to write in her famous journal, "Think of all the beauty still left around you and be happy." She found joy in her heart and not at all in her circumstance.
We can too!
August 14 Don't Be Too SureI'm grateful to be as uncertain of anything as some people are sure of everything.
August 13 Take Control of Your EmotionsIt is disappointing that some people can live a lifetime without learning that they are in charge of their feelings. To continually burden ourselves and those around us with a weight of negative and critical attitudes, feelings, and opinions would represent a terrible spiritual failure.
August 12 Get the Darkness out of Your HeartWhen someone cuts us off in traffic, it is inaccurate to say that the person made us angry. The person's action merely sets free the anger that we had in our spirit. Jesus wouldn't have been angered, for example. Or Mother Teresa. Or Gandhi. Or Buddha.
August 11 Know When to Be QuietLet's express thoughts that preserve harmony and bring peace, or else hold our tongue. When we are at our best, circumstances will sometimes be able to make a song of our silences.
August 10 Stop Answering That Door!Whenever Depression knocks on my heart, seeking entrance, I send Hopefulness to answer the door.
August 9 Focus On the PositivePut your whole self into relationships with others by avoiding needlessly negative attitudes. Everybody at some point surely deserves your respect and even admiration. That's what we should focus on because it is what we would wish others to focus on when they look at use.
August 8 Let Slander PassWhen someone says something bad about us that is not true, let's just let it go, consoling ourselves with the sure knowledge that the truth will eventually drive away the falsehood. Or if it is true then we should feel bad long enough to confess sincerely to anyone we wronged, and then just move on.
August 7 Don't Defend YourselfNever be defensive about anything. Attempts at revenge, justification, or getting even are always detrimental to your emotional health. Humility yields great social power and peace of mind.
August 6 Don't Stop LovingFollowing five decades of marriage I still enjoy giving my wife warm hugs at the beginning and ending of each day. Every time I leave her to run an errand I hug her again and we tell each other "I love you." Each time it feels good!
August 5 Live with the Breaks OffFull engagement with life requires us to throw ourselves into the processes of living whether struggling with cancer or on vacation in Yosemite by opening a Source of joy that is brighter than the darkness of disease and greater than Half Dome's mighty summit.
August 4 Don't GossipA wise person avoids gossip both by not listening to it and by not spreading it to others. What good could be served by spreading negative information about another person regardless of whether or not it is true?
August 3 Stop Looking for GratitudeIf I serve someone from a sense of true humility I will neither look for nor even particularly notice whether the person is grateful or not because of the joy that comes from the simple privilege of being able to contribute to the happiness of someone I love.
August 2 Be Good for OthersI am good for the people around me to the extent that I embrace them without paying attention to whatever faults or shortcomings I might notice, except as a rare opportunity to offer helpful advice or to make an occasional loving rebuke.
August 1 Care for Others and Show Them You DoShow people that you care about them beginning with simply listening to them when they speak. Keep your mouth shut as much as possible.
July 31 Stop Pointless ArgumentsLet's be prepared to rebuke injustice or to correct error when doing so actually makes things better. However, when people simply say things that we don't agree with, let's try to resist jumping in to argue our own position. (That's difficult sometimes.)
July 30 Be GenuineEliminate the frustration and hypocrisy that will result from any attempt to attain to a goodness that lies beyond your reach or pretending to live by a standard that you don't actually practice!